How can you cope with not being able to talk to those you have lost?

[chocolatestar]

My dad died very suddenly last week. I am struggling to cope with the fact that I can't talk to him anymore as he was always the one I turned to. I am also deperate to know if he is ok where ever he is.

How can I cope with not knowing? How will I manage without talking to him? I feel sick and depressed.

Sorry to hear that your dad died.
I think you just kind of get used to it, when my husband died I still spoke to him sort of like thinking aloud, almost 2 years now and I don't talk to him so much but I do wonder what he would think about things if he were to walk throu the door.
I did lots of writing when steve was dying I found it helpful to jot things down at silly o'clock when sleep escaped me.
You may worry that you will forget what your dads voice sounds like, you won't really forget.

So to hear of your loss, chocolatestar and especially the suddenness of it.

I still talk to my Nanna and my Mum, in my head, in my dreams sometimes too and whenever I visit their grave. Sometimes I "feel" an answer from them, if that doesn't sound too kooky - it's probably just my unconscious mind telling me the answer but I like to think it's them answering me.

You can cope because you will have to - whatever your belief system will support in terms of where your Dad has gone will help you in the long run. I believe in a spirit dimension and believe that I will see my grandparents and my Mum there again some day, and that they are reunited there.

I also can still "hear" their voices (Grandad's too), sometimes just as oft-repeated phrases, but it's their voices all right and that comforts me.

At this stage, you are going to have all sorts of emotions to deal with - let them happen, give yourself time, but don't let them overwhelm you. I hope you have someone in RL to talk to and comfort you. If not, maybe Cruse could be of some use to you.

Big (((hugs))) to you - it's a horrible place you're in at the moment but eventually life will start to return to something like normal, albeit a different normal.

Hi CHocolatestar. Sorry about your Dad. I lost my Dad just over a year ago, and have only just started talking to him.

At first, in the early days the thought of talking to him was absurd. Now I find it quite comforting, and if I think hard enough I can hear what he would be saying to me.

In the early days though it is still so raw, and confusing, and painful. I am so so sorry, I know just how you feel.

I am a year down the line and still miss mine like crazy, He too was a wonderfully wise man who was always my first port of call for advice.

It just takes time hun, a whole lot of time. I can't offer any advice, but I am walking the same path.

MN is a great source of comfort, so stay around.