Two and a half years ago my nephew was killed in a car crash - he was only 19 on his way home from work.
It has devastated all of us, and it is so strange because my dad also died in a car crash on his way home from work as well but that was many years ago.
And then just to top it off my mum died 8 months after my nephew.
My sister lives quite far away so most of our contact is by phone - it was so, so hard just after it happened. Trying to reach out over a phone call is the most difficult thing.
As I said it has been two and a half years and things have moved on - we can still have a lot of fun together but I know this is a loss that her and her DH will never recover from.
And I can completly understand that - anytime I imagine how I would feel if it was my DS then I just can't breathe.
I'm not quite sure if I'm really looking for advice or just reassurance that eventually she will find some sort of peace.