Card for bereaved friend, 1 year anniversary?

[Tigerlily1]

A friend's baby died a year ago and I have heard that it is good to acknowledge the anniversary to let them know that you remember but is this definitely good? I'm a bit worried as I know they'll obviously remember it but do they want other people to mention it? She is a friend of a friend really but I felt so much for her at the time, it was awful and I did write to her then, which she appreciated. Do I now send a card to mark 1 yr on??
Thanks x

By the way, I know I have left it a bit late to ask advice but if it is to send, I need to do it today so any fast replies would be hugely appreciated! x

I think it would be a really kind and thoughful gesture.

I found that people avoided saying anything and was very hurt by it. I would have really appreciated a card of even a few words to let me know that someone else thought of my daughter too.

I would definetly send a card. My first ds died at birth fourteen years ago. My best friend rings me every year on Jack's birthday. She will appreciate that you have thought of her.

Sorry error there. Jack was born fifteen years ago not fourteen.

I think it would be really kind and thoughtful.She will only now be dealing with the reality of her tragic loss so I am sure thinking that other people have not forgotten would be a great help.How kind of you.

thank you, i will send it. also, i'm sorry to those of you who are also in the awful position of having lost a child too. what do you think i should say? x

I would say that you are thinking of them and that you are there for them.

Hi

My baby died almost a year ago - her 1st anniversary is in 2 weeks. I really think sending her a card is very thoughtful - I would be really very touched if someone did that for me. Aside from immediate family, I am not really expecting anyone to acknowledge it - if they do, that's a bonus. You sound like a really lovely friend. x

As Sh77 says you sound like a lovely friend and I hope she was touched by you remembering.
I'm so sorry for those of you that have lost children, my heart goes out to you.
sh77, I hope that you have some friends like Tigerlily that are there for you in 2 weeks. You and your DD will be in my prayers x

Thanks mumoverseas - such a kind response.

sh77 I don't want to speak out of turn but have you found the lovely ladies on the bereaved mummmies thread? They must be the most amazing women, they have all sadly met through the loss of their dear children and I know they always welcome others in the same situation with open arms. They are there for each other all the time, particularly on anniversarys, birthdays etc and will light a candle for your little girl.
I'm sorry I don't know how to link to them but I'm sure you'll find them if you look through the bereaved threads. They always have a lovely but somewhat moving thread title.
I will light a candle here in Saudi Arabia for your little angel. Take care x

Your friend will be pleased that you have remembered when others will have forgotten or not marked the day.

I think it's a lovely, thoughtful gesture. She will appreciate it.

We had friends who lost their son at the age of 13 last year.

We did write a note on the anniversary this year just to say "I am thinking of you".

It was really appreciated.

When I was in 6th form one of my very close friends lost her little sister.

I left home shortly afterwards but always sent a card to the whole family on the anniversary of her death. Just a simple card saying I was thinking of them all and I know her Mum has always appreciated them. As time has gone on it's almost become a kind of touching base thing too, telling them about my wedding, new baby etc.