Death following premature birth

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Dear mumsnetters a friend of mine has just ben through a terrible ordeal. She gave birth at 27 weeks and the baby lived only 2 days. One of my concerns is the hospital have said she is more likely to have a further prem birth if she gets pregnant again! Does anyone have any experience of this or any success stories following premature births/death. She is such a wonderful person and WILL make a fantastic mum, she and her husband have so much to give a child and life has already dealt her some terrible blows. I still feel physically sick at what has happened to her - god only knows how my dear friend will get through this. I would love to pass on some positive comments. Thanks everyone.

Jojo, heaps of luck to you, how exciting the next few days (years) are going to be.

jojo21, Sorry to hear about your babies. My partner doesn't and wouldn't talk about his feelings. Even now I find it very hard to talk to him about Ben and Beth. when I have had a bad day or a upsetting night, my partner finds this hard to handle. You are so right about talking to family and friends.I talk alot to my Mom about my babies also my pain. I will never forget them and I won't let anyone else!. Pleased you are having a baby hope all goes well for you.

Does your partner talk about your babies now? hope you don't mind me asking if you have any advice on how to talk to partner please let me know.Soory its so long at last I have found someone who has lost babies and partner finds it hard to talk,thought I was alone!!

I had a stillbirth in september last year at 37 wks and have had two mc's this year. I think having very supportive parents and friends has helped us get through the last year. Having someone who will listen when you want to talk about your baby and call your baby by his/her name makes a huge difference. My dp talks about our ds every day and that means so much to me. The pain doesn't go away, i don't think it ever will but it gets easier to live with. Some days are very dark indeed and i know as soon as i open my eyes how the day is going to go, but as i said the support gets me through. Good caring friends are so important.

I am trying to think of something to say to make it better for your friend, but there is nothing I can think of, just the thought of losing one of my boys is devistating. I had 2 premature births, first one at 33 weeks and the second one at 28 weeks. Both boys are fine now. It was really scary with the second one, I thought I was going to lose him on a few occassions, it was horrible. We started trying for another baby a couple of years ago. One of my friends said that while she was in America she saw a story on tv about a woman who had had premature births, I am not sure if they survived. When she fell pregnant again the doctor sewed her cervix, she carried full term , no problems at all. You could probably find somewhere on the net about this proceedure or ask the doctor about it. If I get the chance to have another baby, I will be getting this done. There is no way I want to go through that again. I hope it happens for your friend soon.