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My baby

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AppleHEAD · 27/03/2010 18:54

Not sure if I belong here.
My daughter was still born at 34 weeks, she would have been 4 tomorrow. No one seems that bothered but I feel desperate to remember her XXXX

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Dominique07 · 27/03/2010 18:56

Hi. Have you got anything to remember her by?

Lilyloo · 27/03/2010 18:57

So sorry to hear of the loss of your daughter, there is a thread that may understand how you are feeling here

Slambang · 27/03/2010 18:57

Yes you can belong Apple head.

So sorry

Did you see her?

drivingmisscrazy · 27/03/2010 18:57

I haven't been through what you've been through and can't imagine how it must feel, but didn't want you to go unanswered. Does your DP or family not feel the same as you about her? She was precious and beautiful and very much loved. I hope you manage to get through tomorrow.

nickytwotimes · 27/03/2010 18:58

SO sorry for your loss, Apple.

COurse you belong here.

There is nothing worse than losing a child.

Portofino · 27/03/2010 19:02

So sorry Apple. Of course you want to remember her! Anniversaries must be so hard on you, especially if you feel that others have forgotten.

stinkypinky · 27/03/2010 19:03

So sorry for your loss - have never experienced this, but have DD nearly 4, so am holding her extra close (37 wks pg also so rather emotional too)

Will be thinking of you.

What did you call her?

alicet · 27/03/2010 22:54

Sending you and your beautiful dd big hugs.

I came onto here and also the miscarriage thread in the last couple of days because I have friends who have had a stillborn baby girl this week. You, among others, were thoughtful enough to post in support to me in my question how I can help them.

I post regularly on the oct 2007 postnatal thread. one of the lovely ladies there had a dd stillborn at 27 weeks 6 years ago. She releases a balloon every year on her dd's birthday.

hope tomorrow is not too painful xxx

AtACompleateLoss · 28/03/2010 02:05

Sending you big hugs xxx
What did you call your DD?
I will remember your DD with you. I will light a candle for her and send a ballon xxx
I'm so sorry no one seems bothered.I am bothered and want to remember you DD with you xxx

stinkypinky · 28/03/2010 11:35

Likewise here... thinking of you today.

thesecondcoming · 28/03/2010 11:37

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Jadey1 · 28/03/2010 11:45

So sorry to hear you feel no one seems bothered. We lost our DS when I was 22 weeks pregnant. 31st May this year will be the first anniversary. Not sure how we will mark it but I think you can only do what feels right. We will always want to remember him.

I've been very emotional about this recently as we, DH & I, are keen to make sure we don't forgot our DS1, especially as I'm expecting DS2 begining of June.

I'm thinking of you on this difficult day xx

lottiejenkins · 28/03/2010 12:01

Apple we have a bereaved Mums thread......
bereaved mums thread

Please do come and join us.

shabbapinkfrog · 28/03/2010 13:50

So very sorry for your loss. Can I please second Lotties post? The most amazing thread on MN - all parents/siblings/grandparents/friends who have been affected by the loss of a child - of any age. We all support each other and its not always all sad - its a loving, loyal and supportive place to be - please come and have a nosey at us xxx

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AppleHEAD · 28/03/2010 21:47

Thank you so much. I went to church today the one where her funeral was held and she was in their prayers. She died today but for various horrible reasons wasn't born until 31st March. I usually release a balloon but as my dd3 is completely obsessed by balloons this will be tricky so I have got one of those lanten things to release. I quite like that I can't do the balloon this year it's like despite the fact that she isn't here her little sister is as annoying to her as if she is.
I just feel as if I am really the only one who notices the date I know my dh thinks about her in his own way.
Thank you for all your thoughts XXX

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humptyismarriedtoanumpty · 28/03/2010 21:50

Can't imagine what you have been through apple, but wanted to say am thinking of you. I'm sure your dh feels the same way, but doesn't/can't express it the same way you do. I know my dh had a miscarriage with his ex wife about 15 years ago, but he still feels it even now, so you're not alone.
x

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AbiAbi · 14/04/2010 11:59

Apple, I am so, so sorry for your loss.

My son died in December, at 8 weeks old.

I am so sorry you feel like people dont talk about her, or remember her. I already feel like that and its only been a few months.

I dont have any wise words I'm afraid, but I didnt want you to feel alone.

Abi

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AppleHEAD · 21/04/2010 22:48

Abi I am so sorry about your son that is just terrible X Poor you I imagine life must be very hard XXX

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