What are you meant to do when someone dies

[mrsflux]

My cousin was found dead yesterday. I hadn't seen him for years and we weren't especially close. I also live 400 miles from his family.

What should I be doing?

Sorry for being so clueless- this us my first experience of loss since leaving home.

Sorry for your loss

I don't have any great suggestions, just to offer them your support and help with any phone calls etc.

Sorry for your loss.

Are you the closest relative?

No not the closest relative. Just feel I should be doing something but don't know what. Especially as I live so far away

Is someone else dealing with the death certificate & registration?

I'm sorry.

First thing to do would be to send them a card, with a little note saying that if theres anything you can do to help to let you know and saying generally kind things. Make sure you find out when the funeral is (and if people are doing flowers or a donation)

I would phone the family and offer condolences. Ask if there is anything you can do. Follow up with a card.

Will you want to travel to the funeral?

i dont know if i can go to the funeral as i have a baby at home. it'll depend on dates and if dh is here or away on work. i cant take ds up with me.

Hope you're ok mrsflux. If you can't go everyone one should understand. Could you send a card & flowers.

Send a card with some thoughtful, supportive words in it. Don't send flowers because people don't always want them.

I've sent a card- was so hard thinking what to write as I realised I actually didn't know him that well.
Now waiting for post mortem results etc. he lived in Scotland so know their system is slightly different but have no idea how long it'll take to sort date for funeral.