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Positive test then negative tests but no bleeding yet? And should we try again?

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eyelash · 19/06/2003 12:33

I feel a bit of a fraud putting this message in but am curious to see if anybody out there has had the same experience. I have 2 ds aged 3 and 1. I recently started periods - two normal periods with a 34 day cycle in between. Although bf, I used persona as a way of tracking ovulation which showed I had ovulated in between the periods and in my current cycle. We decided to try for another baby, I ovulated around day 14, had what I think was an implantation bleed on day 23, and a (very strong)positive pregnancy test on day 27. I performed another test 4 days after which was negative, and have since done another 4 which have all been negative. I did the extra test as I had a miscarriage in between ds1 and ds2 and heavy bleeding with ds2. I know I am not pregnant now but have yet to have a bleed. I am still bf ds2, and wonder if his increased feeding on holiday has made a mess of my hormones, and maybe even the pregnancy. I have made an appointment to see my doctor on Monday and will see what she says. I dread the thought of a D&C and hope I will have a natural bleed before then.

DH is very adament that we should not risk any more turmoil. Although he was absolutely delighted when we thought we were pregnant, he thinks we should now thank god that we have two healthy sons and not risk further miscarriages, or disabilities. I am 35 so not getting any younger and we also have down syndrome on both sides of the family (uncle and nephew) and other genetic issues like hare lip and severe food allergies).

Anybody got any experience and should we try again?

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hewlettsdaughter · 19/06/2003 12:42

Hi eyelash, sorry to hear about what's happening to you. Do you mean should you try again soon or should you try again ever? If the latter, don't make any hasty decisions. You (and dh) might feel differently at some timepoint in the future.

eyelash · 19/06/2003 21:46

I don't think we should try again soon in any case. But we are debating whether to ever try for another at all. I loved being pregnant (until the last month) and can not imagine that our family is complete but wonder if we should call a halt now? There was a similar thread to this recently which gave some advice so I might try to dig it out.

But my main concern at the moment is that I still haven't had a bleed and I wondered if anybody had has a similar experience. Not obvious from my initial message as it was long and rambling (apologies). In fact I should have posted two separate messages.

Grateful for any advice.

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aloha · 19/06/2003 22:30

eyelash, if you do try again make sure you take your folic acid - deficiencies are linked to conditions such as cleft palate and are thought to also be genetic. Good luck with whatever you decide.

noodlekanoodle · 12/08/2003 04:06

I have been through the same kind of thing, I have two boys and have been trying for another child for 2 years now. We tried for two years for our second son and on three occassions I throught I was pregnant in that 2 years. This time around we said to each other, thats it we will just have fun trying, no pressure, if it happens it happens. YEAH RIGHT! It took a year of no pressure and that was fine, however this year is a different story. About 4 months ago I was totally sure I was pregnant (short of a pregnancy test) I had made an appointment with my doctor the next day to get a blood test to find out (urine tests don't work for me, my second son came up negative). The next morning I started bleeding. I held it together for about a week and then fell to pieces. It's been interesting since. I had an operation nearly two months ago, they took some cysts off of my ovaries, and gave me a dnc. I gave myself until my second son turned 5 to fall pregnant, I was adamant that we would stop then. Well that was last month. But I have to say, I just have to give it some more time. I desire to have another baby so much my heart aches. Ok I just wrote alot. Anyway my advice would be to go and get your hormone levels checked out, it's just a simple blood test. The doctor will be able to tell you what is going on in that body of yours and then you can decide whether you want to go ahead. I tried telling myself that I should be happy with the two awesome little boys that I have, that some people can't have kids at all, I should be greatful. I spent every day trying to convince myself. But at the end of the day I just want another child. Hopefully after this operation that I had, we can have another child soon. God I am praying for it.

noodlekanoodle · 12/08/2003 04:06

I have been through the same kind of thing, I have two boys and have been trying for another child for 2 years now. We tried for two years for our second son and on three occassions I throught I was pregnant in that 2 years. This time around we said to each other, thats it we will just have fun trying, no pressure, if it happens it happens. YEAH RIGHT! It took a year of no pressure and that was fine, however this year is a different story. About 4 months ago I was totally sure I was pregnant (short of a pregnancy test) I had made an appointment with my doctor the next day to get a blood test to find out (urine tests don't work for me, my second son came up negative). The next morning I started bleeding. I held it together for about a week and then fell to pieces. It's been interesting since. I had an operation nearly two months ago, they took some cysts off of my ovaries, and gave me a dnc. I gave myself until my second son turned 5 to fall pregnant, I was adamant that we would stop then. Well that was last month. But I have to say, I just have to give it some more time. I desire to have another baby so much my heart aches. Ok I just wrote alot. Anyway my advice would be to go and get your hormone levels checked out, it's just a simple blood test. The doctor will be able to tell you what is going on in that body of yours and then you can decide whether you want to go ahead. I tried telling myself that I should be happy with the two awesome little boys that I have, that some people can't have kids at all, I should be greatful. I spent every day trying to convince myself. But at the end of the day I just want another child. Hopefully after this operation that I had, we can have another child soon. God I am praying for it.

noodlekanoodle · 12/08/2003 04:07

I have been through the same kind of thing, I have two boys and have been trying for another child for 2 years now. We tried for two years for our second son and on three occassions I throught I was pregnant in that 2 years. This time around we said to each other, thats it we will just have fun trying, no pressure, if it happens it happens. YEAH RIGHT! It took a year of no pressure and that was fine, however this year is a different story. About 4 months ago I was totally sure I was pregnant (short of a pregnancy test) I had made an appointment with my doctor the next day to get a blood test to find out (urine tests don't work for me, my second son came up negative). The next morning I started bleeding. I held it together for about a week and then fell to pieces. It's been interesting since. I had an operation nearly two months ago, they took some cysts off of my ovaries, and gave me a dnc. I gave myself until my second son turned 5 to fall pregnant, I was adamant that we would stop then. Well that was last month. But I have to say, I just have to give it some more time. I desire to have another baby so much my heart aches. Ok I just wrote alot. Anyway my advice would be to go and get your hormone levels checked out, it's just a simple blood test. The doctor will be able to tell you what is going on in that body of yours and then you can decide whether you want to go ahead. I tried telling myself that I should be happy with the two awesome little boys that I have, that some people can't have kids at all, I should be greatful. I spent every day trying to convince myself. But at the end of the day I just want another child. Hopefully after this operation that I had, we can have another child soon. God I am praying for it.

noodlekanoodle · 12/08/2003 04:16

Sheesk that was alot of posts, sorry my computer was having trouble, I need more memory in this thing. You would think that my husband being a computer building freak, I mean proffessional that our computer would run alot better than this

Maccers19 · 07/01/2021 18:45

Eyelash, i know it has been a while since this post was active but currently going through virtually exactly the same, may I ask what became of your situation? Did you eventually bleed or was the pregnancy successful? 🤞

TheDaydreamBelievers · 13/01/2021 19:31

@Maccers19 hi, I'm sorry I can't help personally but there are lots of people on the conception or misscarriage boards on this site who will be able to help

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