brothers grave

[devientenigma]

I have just been to visit my brothers grave. He is in a multi burial place where they used to bury all the stillbirths and babies who didn't live long. We have been visiting him now for about 20yr. Over time as more and more people found where there children were buried, the site grew bigger.
One family in particular seem to encroach over ours and seem to push us out. I felt very hurtful about this. I feel disrespected especially for my mam.
Hoever the LA have been doing some work at the site and moved everyones headstones etc into storage until the work was done.
We have been to visit today on his anniversary to find all gravestones back. The same encroachment over our space by the same family, however a new family in our space and ours was no where to be seen.
We have telephoned to find out where he's gone to be told everything has been put back!!
My mam is really upset at the thought of being pushed out bythis family not to mention the now LA!!

Do you mean that the headstone isn't there, or that the grave has been sort of "taken over" by other families?

Sorry, yes both.
When the council have put the graves back ours is used by a different family and my brothers cross isn't there anymore, anywhere.
We have been told photographs were taken to ensure they did go back the same. Also how could ours go missing??

That must be heartbreaking. Can you ask to see the photographs? This is the sort of thing that MP's get involved in isn't it?

can you go round and check all the gravestones in case yours has been misplaced else where?

so sorry

hi, thanks,
been round and ours is defo missing. Also photos have gone missing???

This is so weird and so annoying and upsetting for you.

We had the same problem with my Grand Parents grave in north London (Barnet). We used to travel down every couple of years but one year (2007?) all the stones had been removed for health and safety reasons and have been replaced with tiny wooden crosses with far less information on them. Beep knows when the stones are going to be replaced.

I have not been down since Mum and Caroline died last year - I will go over the summer.