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Bereavement

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My aunt just died and I have noone to talk to so I just rang work

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grumpypants · 05/02/2010 10:06

I fel like a total idiot. My local friend is off out in a minute (preplanned) so I don't want to ring her, dh is at work and the dcs except the little one are at school. All the local people I know are school gate chat type people and my 'proper' friends live in different cities now and are at work. My mum just rang but is too sad to talk, and I can't ring my gps - it wd be too sad. So I rang work to talk thro next week's schedule...

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grumpypants · 05/02/2010 10:14

bump - please?

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Lcy · 05/02/2010 10:18

So sorry to hear that your Aunt died. What happened?

Hulababy · 05/02/2010 10:20

So sorry

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grumpypants · 05/02/2010 10:22

she had cancer and they thought she'd be ok, then she went into a hospice and died last night. she was lovely, and i just feel a bit lost - just tried to ring my best friend and it was engaged! kind of sad, headless chicken. Thank you.

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herecomesthebus · 05/02/2010 10:23

Sorry for your loss - it's hard too when you just need someone to talk to.

Was it unexpected?

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grumpypants · 05/02/2010 10:27

yes, and I was too far away to be there without being a nuisance (staying at mum's, all the kids etc). Just tried another RL friend and she's out! Plus, lost my mobile with all my contacts so a bit cr*p at moment. dh coming home to do school run.

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herecomesthebus · 05/02/2010 10:35

It's hard when you're close family but can't be there. My great-aunt died in a hospice of cancer about eight years ago and like you I couldn't be near and just had to wait at the end of the phone.

Have a non mumsnetty .

justabout · 05/02/2010 10:41

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Sazisi · 05/02/2010 10:47

I am so sorry
try your BF again, then ask DH to text her for you if still engaged xxx

OrmRenewed · 05/02/2010 10:49

Sorry to hear that grumpy

Sparkletastic · 05/02/2010 10:49

So sorry grumpypants - will you be able to see your family at the weekend to be with one-another?

Lcy · 05/02/2010 10:57

It is really difficult being by yourself when something so sad has just happened. I hope DH can give you a big hug.

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grumpypants · 05/02/2010 12:17

Thankyou everyone. Managed to spk to a RL (nonwork!) person and feel a bit better. Poor aunt was so lovely and source of book tokens and advice to me at rough time of my life. She hadn't even got to be retired

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WingedVictory · 24/02/2010 22:53

Hello, grumpypants, how are you getting on?

I've just seen this thread, and although it's rather late, wanted to say that it wasn't weird or silly at all that you rang work! I do think that people bottle things up too much, but if you needed to wait and let things out properly, with someone who cared, and understood, rather than just the bewildered crying which comes when we don't know what to do or think (and that doesn't do us any good), you probably did quite the right thing!

How are you coping now?

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