When Bo died (healthy 7lb7oz twin during a botched labour) I expected to have a low level of sadness, punctuated by bouts of extreme pain. This hasn't happened and, probably because I have his twin Elijah and two older boys to look after, I've just 'got on with things.' The last couple of days have been really difficult. I've been in contact with our local MP's office (she has offered to take on our case to lobby for changes in funding/management of ante-natal and delivery care) and I'm sure that this has re-ignited the feelings.
Last night, when Mr Bubble and I went to bed, Elijah was gurgling in his cot and we both said that he should have been gurgling to his twin brother. I've been looking at my notes as well and they said that Bo was dead in a pool of meconium which meant that the poor little mite was distressed and I feel so acutely that I let him down and I never got to kiss him when he was alive and make it all better. I kissed his beautiful dead face but the thought of him struggling and perhaps feeling frightened haunts me.
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bubble99 · 05/07/2005 20:40
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