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Who will you be missing this Christmas ?

92 replies

LilySwalLoosHerTurkeyBaster · 23/12/2009 19:34

My mum can't believe it will be almost 8 years since she died. I wish she had got to meet her grandchildren and had a Christmas with them , she loved it....

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charleymouse · 24/12/2009 02:37

My wonderful Dad, died January 2004

My lovely MIL, died August 2004

My Special Grandyad died December 2005

My precious son, died April 2007 aged 9 hours

My beloved Nana, died April 2007

My darling Nana, died November 2008

My mc baby Jan 2009

Hope you are all having a ball together this Christmas, will be raising a glass to you. I'm so sorry you never knew I was planning a family Dad, you would be a brilliant Grandad and all the kids would adore you.

I miss you all so much and think of you every day, not just at Christmas time. You would all be so proud of our family. I am trying my best to refill my Christmas lunch table but there are so many gaps I don't think my womb will hold up .

MummyClausGoneCrazy · 24/12/2009 04:13

My Auntie who died 3 years ago
My granddad who died 2 years ago
My baby cousin who died 4 years ago
He was born 3 months early and he fought for 7 months but his lungs weren't strong enough and had to have operations for a hole in his heart

And My little angel who i miscarried at 14wks

chimchar · 24/12/2009 07:50

my lovely mum who died suddenly in july....still can't comprehend it.

so very sorry for all those of you who are hurting...the death of a child must be too much to stand...thinking of you all.

its nice to have a peaceful thread to post and remember on. x

shabbapinkfrog · 24/12/2009 07:52

My haven

Just wanted to link anybody who is interested to the most wonderful thread on MN. xx

KissingUnderTheMittsletoe · 24/12/2009 08:12

My Grandad.

peterpansmum · 24/12/2009 08:52

My crazy, gorgeous wee brown eyed son who died very suddenly in March this year aged 2. The warmth, laughter and precious memories you brought to me in your short life will be with me forever. We love you and know you're watching over us xx

shabbapinkfrog · 24/12/2009 08:57

massive hugs to you PPM xxxx

oneofapair · 24/12/2009 09:27

My Mother and my twin sister Caroline (like some others on this thread shockingly soon after diagnosis).

I hope Shabbapinkfrog was right when she said, ?They loved us when they were physically here and we loved them - they would never leave us to walk this crappy path on our own.?

ErikaMaye · 24/12/2009 12:28

I'm sure that all the adults we are missing are looking after the children we have lost; have helped them decorate the trees in Heaven, and write their letters to Santa, and that they will all be looking down on us, and wishing us all a magical and happy Christmas.

I lost my faith when I lost my baby two years ago, but I trully believe that.

crumpette · 24/12/2009 13:23

my daughter who died in April

and
my grandma who died in July

drivinmecrazy · 24/12/2009 13:45

my Dad who died 18 months ago. DC hang the gift tags from his last christmas gifts to them on the tree

Amo101 · 24/12/2009 18:32

My Mum who died in March 2008, my nephew who died aged 16 in November this year and my two babies who I lost before I even met them in March and September of this year.

shabbapinkfrog · 24/12/2009 22:47

Josh Groban

The lyrics to this song, in my opinion, say it all. May I wish all of you a peaceful Christmas. xxxx

MilkNoBrandyForSanta · 24/12/2009 23:02

My wonderful wonderful nan

This is our 2nd christmas without her and it still hurts as much as the day we lost her. she was a huge part of christmas...never ever spent one without her until she died...a huge part of xmas will be missing tomorrow

Promised myself i wouldnt cry tomorrow but im starting now!

Hope everyone has a merry christmas remembering loved ones

woollyjo · 24/12/2009 23:09

MIL - died 3 years ago
FIL - died last Jan
DD2 - who would have been 6 months on the 30th

wondering when the tears will stop

shabbapinkfrog · 24/12/2009 23:13

Woollyjo - the tears dont come as often as the years go by but then older grief bites you on the bum when you least expect it xxx

lilolilmanchester · 24/12/2009 23:37

Thinking of my Dad, MIL and FIL tonight, wishing they were all here with us
My thoughts are especially with those of you who have lost loved ones recently, and to all who have lost children, must be a very difficult time for you xx

galletti · 24/12/2009 23:50

My wonderful 'little' brother (6ft to my 5ft 6), died aged 39 in 2007. I miss him SO MUCH.

And dad, and Nana and Pa and dh's dad.

Love you all, and thinking about you x

MummyDoIt · 24/12/2009 23:57

Missing my wonderful DH, Chris, who died August 2008. This is our second Christmas without him. I've just filled the DSs stockings by myself and I am missing DH so much.

Also missing my Dad who died November 2007.

Happy Christmas to two very special people.

alypaly · 25/12/2009 00:01

my mum....she died almost 2 years ago to the day and i still miss her so much. she was my best friend and the hole she has left is immense.
She weighed 5stone when she died but was afighter to the very end.

TigerDrivesAgain · 25/12/2009 00:04

My dad who died two months ago. He loved my DS more than anything, and he loved Christmas. He was a grumpy old cuss but it's very strange not having him here.

magicofchristmas · 25/12/2009 00:07

Mum (14yrs today) and dad (4yrs)
missing them every day.

Also lots of family (sadly to many to mention here).

No doubt they will all be together up there having all the turkey and trimmings and opening the pressies with each other. Looking out for all the little ones lost and making sure they have a fun time even tho they can't be here with us.

Merry christmas to them all.

Merry christmas to everyone here too.

ShinyAndNew · 25/12/2009 00:10

My nephew. It's our first Xmas without him. He died early this of cancer. He was 10

God knows how SIL will get through the day.

TLESinChristmasStockings · 25/12/2009 00:16

I wish for things this christmas
I know I can never have
A moment or two again
with each one that I love
My Dad I miss so deeply
Six years have gone by i know
But it Still cuts me like a knife
My Nanny so sweet and dear
3 years have now passed
Who would have thought this pain
Would ever really last
Then one more person who
I loved so very much
So santa can I have one wish?
Can I see my Grandad
and celebrate this day with him
Today you know, Ninety he would have been.

MilkNoBrandyForSanta · 25/12/2009 00:16

Oh god shiny, thats terrible...so sorry