Sorry if this doesn't belong in bereavement...I didn't know where to put it exactly, because it feels as though the person has sort of gone already, in a way
What it is is that someone I know and am very close to, has cancer. The outlook is not very good and obviously she is going through a huge variety of emotions, which must be terrible. But she's changed.
It's not that she has become very angry or horrible or anything like that, but she will sometimes say things that she never would have done before this - she is behaving differently, as though somehow this horrible illness has got hold of her personality as well and is slowly taking the person we know and love, far far away from us all.
Maybe it is just that she has had to adapt to a new way of coping, and is just unsure who she is any more...I just miss her, and wondered if this was normal.
I never thought I would abandon our friendship in these circumstances, and would stay to the end, but at the moment it's as though I'm not sure what to say to her, because the things she is saying are so odd, and not the kind of thing I know how to respond to.
Can anyone shed any light, maybe it is more common than I thought, for a person this poorly to change in other ways iyswim.
I really hope the way I have worded this doesn't offend anyone. It has just come as a shock how much this illness can do to a person, and I don't know how to get across the barrier.
Thankyou.