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Good 'going in' music?

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bb99 · 04/12/2009 11:13

Feel a bit of a fraud - have funeral for my latest late miscarriage dc - got to 18 weeks again - on Monday. Rollercoastering away as expected and as normal.

Can't seem to think of any good or appropriate 'going in' music when DH will carry our boy into the crematorium (and I will be crying)

Had 'Mad World', the REM version last time (well nearly - picked up the wrong CD ) but doesn't feel right this time around.

Thought 'Wild Horses', the Stones version, but that always makes me quite sad anyway and I was trying to look for something a bit more up lifting as a celebration - hey we got this far (18 wks+) and shared some good times etc (had other problems with this pg and every scan it looked as tho it was getting better and better - thought this little fighter would make it, but then I think same ishoos as last time surfaced. Never mind...) TMI, sorry

I know it's not all doom and gloom - things will get better and I am fortunate enough that 2 dcs HAVE made it through my reproductive system and into my waiting arms.

Any music ideas would be most welcome - off to wibbly wobble my way round the rest of the day now.

TIA. May your days be kind.

OP posts:
cruisemum1 · 04/12/2009 11:50

Tears in Heaven? Rule the World? Sorry for your loss. Stay strong..xx

MmeLindt · 04/12/2009 11:53

Sorry for your loss.

What about Somewhere over the Rainbow

cruisemum1 · 04/12/2009 12:22

Fix You - Coldplay?
Feel so sad for you bb99

cruisemum1 · 04/12/2009 13:44

Give Me Strength' Eric Clapton

cruisemum1 · 04/12/2009 13:45

Shine - Take That?

cruisemum1 · 04/12/2009 14:00

sorry they are all a bit downbeat. I cannot think of any upbeats that fit the occasion.

DrNortherner · 04/12/2009 17:21

Forever young?

bb99 · 04/12/2009 20:43

BIG thank you for your support and ideas - had a listen on spotify to all of them and got quite inspired...if a bit teary

Think we've got it - The Show Must Go On, Queen, a bit odd I know, but sooo appropriate for DH, DCs and I at the moment. And DH is a HUGE Queen fan - thought it might be good to have something we know will be heard at different times IYSWIM

Going out (if we're allowed)...

You're My Star, Stereophonics (I liked the first verse words, as I think that's all we'd get)

If we're not allowed to have going out music it will be DC1 and their phone through speakers in the gardens as we let the balloons go free - got them sorted today (and take 1 home for our much younger DC)

Well it does get better I know and have lots of good support on here and in RL, so onwards and upwards. Just have a few flowers to sort and a dress to iron and we're all ready for Monday.

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cruisemum1 · 05/12/2009 07:50

bb99 - lovely choices. I do hope it goes well for you all. Thinking of you and yours....x

everlong · 05/12/2009 09:39

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shelleylou · 05/12/2009 09:52

Sorry for your loss. At db's funeral we were allowd a song to go in to and one going out. We couldnt find many that were appropriate so used the one thing for both. One i wanted couldnt be done as it was too hard to loop the chorus (rest of the song was inappropraite)

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