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Should I visit my granddad's rose bush in the crem?

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Alambil · 22/09/2009 23:24

I haven't been since the day of the funeral

he died 8 years ago and I've been once, before DS was born (so over 7 yrs ago)

I just don't seem to be able to go.... I was in a very bad relationship when Grandad died and I never went on the last trip to see him, so I never got to say good bye until the curtain drew on his coffin and he went forever I broke down at that point and howled - a proper primate howl and had to leave the ceremony, so I have awful memories of the time

I saw him for the last time before he moved south and got sick, and left with a simple "see you soon" - not a proper good bye, not like everyone else did (I don't know why I didn't go... I was not myself at the time, going through what I can only describe as a mental breakdown or something)

Should I go? I don't know if I could do it without actually breaking down in tears

I couldn't go with anyone else - it'd have to be on my own; my nan and mum wouldn't cope with my tears if they were there.

What do you think?

OP posts:
Tortington · 22/09/2009 23:26

i think you should. there is absolutley nothing wrong with tears. You loved him. go tell him xx

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