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Can't be real, his phones still ringing

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Lovemyshoes · 17/08/2009 18:32

Police have just been to tell me my brothers body has been found

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dizzymare · 17/08/2009 19:35

So sorry

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kormachameleon · 17/08/2009 19:37

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OmicronPersei8 · 17/08/2009 19:38

I'm so sorry

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Lovemyshoes · 17/08/2009 20:11

Can't be real, how come his phone is still ringing.

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SmallScrewCap · 17/08/2009 20:26

It won't feel real for a while, flower. Make sure you have someone with you all the time over the coming days.

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cocolepew · 17/08/2009 20:28

So sorry, take care.

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Lovemyshoes · 17/08/2009 20:33

horrid to say it, but dh is being shite. I keep asking why why why, and all he says is because he is a selfish cunt.

I have been breaking down for the last few hours and the only time he hugs me is when i ask.

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Lovemyshoes · 17/08/2009 20:37

He's just told me to get it under control for my dd's. I am trying FGS

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chegirl · 17/08/2009 20:38

He doesnt know what to do. People dont. He is scared of your grief. Raw grief terrifies people.

I am so sorry that this has happened.

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OrmIrian · 17/08/2009 20:38

Oh love So sorry.

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SmallScrewCap · 17/08/2009 20:41

Keep telling him you need a hug and not to hear that about your brother. Anger is a common reaction to shocking news - it's his way of protecting you, even if it doesn't work.

Did you say you had a friend with you? Can the friend be on hugging duty for a bit?

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Portofino · 17/08/2009 20:41

So sorry!

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MANATEEequineOHARA · 17/08/2009 20:44

I'm sorry

My ex H died suddenly a few weeks ago. It is such a shock and just horrible. Must you be the one to deal with your dd's right now??? I spent the first day after I heard alseep in a chair at a friend's house, I couldn't do anything else. Can you get your friend to be with you now? Especially if your husband is being totally unhelpful.

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chimchar · 17/08/2009 20:48

oh god. how awful. i'm so sorry. x

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NotPlayingAnyMore · 17/08/2009 21:01

So sorry to hear this

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NotPlayingAnyMore · 17/08/2009 21:03

So sorry to hear this

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shootfromthehip · 17/08/2009 21:10

Gutted for you. Just gutted.

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cheesesarnie · 17/08/2009 21:10
Sad
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SmallScrewCap · 17/08/2009 22:06

Lovemyshoes, I know that eating, drinking and resting feel like the last things you want to do right now, but try and do a little of each just to help your body and mind to deal with all of this.

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Portofino · 18/08/2009 08:06

Lovemyshoes, I'm thinking of you this morning. I hope you were able to get SOME sleep.

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Lovemyshoes · 18/08/2009 09:59

Didn't get much sleep, my head is banging, etc.

Been onto the coroner, police and his girlfriend all morning.

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SmallScrewCap · 18/08/2009 10:25

Morning, lovemyshoes, have been thinking about you.

How are you coping with all the phone calls? Don't be afraid to say to officials that you haven't had any sleep and may need things explaining 2 or 3 times, they will understand.

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Lovemyshoes · 18/08/2009 11:03

Struggling to find one sister. My head is mashed. I may go to bed for a lie down

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SmallScrewCap · 18/08/2009 11:30

Yeah do that - even if it's just a lie-down with no actual sleep, it will help you.

I imagine that everything feels completely surreal and odd at the moment, but shock is a natural human reaction - your body's very healthy way of giving you a cushion of time to come to terms with things. Just focus on life an hour at a time for now (or even a minute if that's all you can manage).

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SmallScrewCap · 21/08/2009 17:00

How are you doing today?

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