My friends dh passed away on saturday !

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My friend and work collegue had a call from her 13 year old dd on saturday morning at work saying mum dad has collapsed.

My friend rung the ambulance from work and dashed of home when she arrived the paramedic came out and told her he had died .

He was 50 two children age 13 and soon to be 9 and the were the only ones in the house when he died.

I dont know why im posting really I dident think I could be so affected by it. My ds 5 has swine flu at the minute and is very poorly and I keep having this awful feeling that something will go wrong. Do you think its the shock ? I feel stupid and selfish for feeling this way .

That should read my ds is 5

HUGE shock, and you're feeling a bit vulnerable as well. please don't kick yourself while you're already down, no-one owns grief.
i'm sorry to hear about your friend's husband, it all sounds terrible, and i hope your wee boy feels better soon.

No, you aren't stupid or selfish for feeling like this - I think when someone we know dies suddenly it pulls us all up short. Someone I have worked with for years but never met (email & phone contact) died last month & I was really knocked back by that - he was only 56 but apparently had long-term health issues he'd never mentioned, it made me very sad & a bit anxious, like you.

Awful for the kids to have to be there when it happened & for their mum not to be there - once you're over the shock yourself you can help support them

Thanks I want to be there for them aswell because she dosent have much family.

you sound like a lovely friend.