Interment

[evansmummy]

As my parents are now living in France, I have offered to organise my brother's interment. However, I really have no idea what I need to do. Does the funeral director organise the time and place (we know where we want his remains interred) or do I need to do that? Should there be flowers? Should a plaque be placed immediately or after? Any help much appreciated.

I'm sorry about your brother. You can either contact a funeral director or arrange it directly. Do you know where you want him to be buried? Your local council will have a list of sites available and basically you pay them to do the job. Plaques can normally be placed quite quickly, headstones etc. take longer.

Thanks for these quick replies.

Yes we do know where we want him to be buried. Ironically when my grandma was interred, my mum got a double plot cos it was in the most gorgeous spot, so there's a free place for him next to her. Not sure if that should be or

The funeral director was rung about 3 weeks ago and asked to find about the memorial gardens and we've not heard anything back. I'm such a control freak I can't bear not knowing! I think I'll contact them directly.

I love flowers, and we only had family flowers at his funeral, I just don't know if they're appropriate at an interment. I guess the memorial gardens people will help with that too.

Thanks again for your replies.

I'm surprised your funeral director hasn't come back to you - do chase them if you still want them to do the job for you. That's what you are paying them for.

But if you do know where the plot is, just contact the council and find out who the representative is for that area - they do keep lists.

Some memorial gardens have particular rules about flowers etc (usually things like 'no plastic, removal after a week' etc. or forbid the planting of certain things - you don't want to encourage people to plant trees for example as the roots will damage other plots). But when you book they tend to send you a note of their rules in any case. Or your funeral director will know.

we had my dad interned recently. he went in the same plot as my sm and her sister. we conmtacted the undertakers and they arranged it(we had a preist do it) we just put a nice pot of flowers on the grave.
Dad had already had a stone marker made for sm so we have had him added to thet.
hope that helps

Thanks for this. Will get on to the funeral directors this week. We are waiting for some separate body parts to be cremated so I guess that's why the funeral direcotors haven't been back to us yet. I want to get things organised though, so I will ring them this week.

Thanks again for your replies. It's just helpful having the support tbh.