Disappointed that my mother has never given me a 'sign'/or have felt her presence after death - am I bonkers?!

[EmmaBridgewater956]

I come from a very spiritual/sometimes superstitious family. When my mother was dying of cancer three years ago she said if she could she would come back and visit me - I wasn't expecting an actual visit but perhaps more of a sort of presence or a little sign that she was there and watching me.

I was 20 when she died and sometimes feel strangely disappointed that I have never had a 'sign' or feeling she is there - even at the times when I know she would be comforting me if she could - when I am howling and missing her!

Other members of my family tell me they have experienced this - I feel jealous! This all sounds irrational - apologies for strange read!

My mum thinks the dead can do this as well - however she thinks that when dead people are doing it, they are breaking "the rules" so that's why giving signs from the dead isn't commonplace. Just her opinion, hope it helps you.

I suppose it is breaking the rules - that does make sense. But coming from a family who relay tales of odd happenings which they swear are a dead grandfather/parent etc I rather expected I might get a waft of my mother's perfume on a particularly bad day or something. It all sounds mad when I write it down.

I think peopl read far too much into 'spiritual presences' your mum is with you every time your heart beats every time you think anything of her and remember her.

I do believe in life after death and have had a few things happen to me that has reinforced my feelings,after my mil died i had what is called an angel dream and in it she told me something that might help you.....she told me that she was able to 'come' to me because id moved on and accepted she had gone she couldnt see dh because he wasnt 'over it' I then asked her why my mum hadnt come with her - my mum died when i was 11......and this made a hellofa lot of sense to me - my mum couldnt come to me because id miss her still like an 11 year old and I was a grown woman.

I think in time something will happen and you will think ' thats my mum' maybe you will hear a song at an appropriate time or maybe a flower will bloom but shes there and shes with you every step along the way xxx.

thank you - thats really lovely. I think of her all the time.

I am sorry your mother died when you were so young - it must have been very difficult.

I dont think theres ever a good age to lose your mum see you knew your mum on a adult-adult level so you lost your best friend too x

My mum died of cancer 2 years ago. Her grace is too far away to visit, so me and DC planted miniature rose in a special part of our garden. The first year it had 4 perfect roses........ 4 children, so I thought a little flower each from my mum. The next year I'd had a baby, and it flowered with 6 roses, an extra for new arrival. No other signs either, but I believe those were my mums roses. It helped the DC too I think.

My mum died recently and she has been to each of my sisters...but not me...i was so desperate that iwent to a spiritualist...my sister had been before and had an amazing reading...i was so excited i really thought I would connect with my mum ...i never did...all of my family is religious but i am not sometimes i think i am being punished for this...but a really good religous friend of mine has gone through the same thing