DHs beloved auntie-who-wasn't-really-his-auntie has died

[Iklboo]

We found out on Saturday - 10 minutes after leaving her a note asking us to call us when she got chance. It looks like she dies on Easter Sunday/Monday but wasn't found until Thursday . We had been phoning her daily since Tuesday but thought maybe she'd gone 'home' to Wales for Easter. We knew she'd been poorly with a stomach upset on Saturday becuase we got her shopping in for her. Dh is beating himself up that we didn;t go earlier, but even if we had she was already dead - and we don;t have keys for her flat anyway.
She was only 62. We were very, very close to her and DH is absoltely knocked sideways by it all.

Oh dear what a horrible shock. Can understand your DH beating himself up but just keep gently reminding him that he saw her very soon before she died, was helping her and being thoughtful by doing her shopping and that there was no reason at all to think that she wouldn't be fine.

I am so sorry . How sad and shocking for you all .

I know. We went round to her flat yesterday to help her brother clean up and sort through stuff (he drove up from Swansea non-stop). I can't stop thinking about the smell. That someone we loved so so much is reduced to a smell and a stain on the bed.

Sorry. That was TMI

Just has a quick sob in the works' loo. Sorry.
Anyway - pulling myself together. When we got the message we were driving. We pulled over and DH and I were both crying. DS (3.5) asked why we were sad and we told him Auntie Jean had died. After a bit of conversation we said 'remember your pet mouse died at Xmas nad we had to bury him in the garden? It's like that'.
He went quiet for a minute and then said 'so, do we have to dig a big hole in the garden for Auntie Jean now?
Out of the mouths of babes..........

Iklboo at least she knew she was loved and cared about lots of people die alone without even speaking to anyone for months.

I am sorry it sounds like a terrible time atm but you and dh always did right by her .

Bless your ds (((hugs))).