I keep dreaming about him.

[Sidge]

My dad died 2.5 months ago. I didn't see him often (he lived overseas) but we would speak and email regularly.

Lately I've been dreaming about him most nights. They are pleasant dreams but when I wake I feel even sadder that he has gone.

Has anyone else had this? How long did it last for? I imagine it's a way of my brain processing memories of him but it's really dragging me down.

sorry sidge for the loss of your dad

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I had really wierd dreams about my mum after she died. They gradually became less frequent over the next year IIRC

I have no advice - just wanted to say how sorry i am. I used to dream about DS (who is severely mentally disabled) being 'normal' and laughing and chatting..this was when he was first diagnosed- i suppose its our bodies way of dealing with grief. Of course its not comparable with what you are going through but maybe its something to do with adjusting to grief/reality...i dont know

i dream about my grandad most nights, he only died last month but they are odd dreams

Thank you for your kind words. I am sorry that you have also lost parents, christiana and fruitshoots.

stillenacht - thank you too. My DD2 is also disabled and I had strange dreams about her too when she was younger. Occasionally I have really morbid dreams about her, but not often thank goodness.

I've had such a difficult year - Dad was diagnosed last Easter with his brain tumour, then DH was away most of the year, I had to get DD2s statement done, she started school the same time that DD1 moved schools, at the same time that I started a new job. Then dad died and even though things are more settled now, I feel like my brain whizzes along at 100 mph. I do get back to sleep after the dreams but never wake feeling rested IYKWIM.

I suppose it is early days, but it's hard

sending you caring and peaceful wishes xxxx

I'm not sure I recall if I had many dreams about my father after he died (it was nearly nine years ago when I was seventeen and in the middle of A-levels, so I didn't really grieve at the time, but kind of postponed my feelings).

But, occasionally, I'll dream about him now. As time has gone on, I tend to welcome the dreams since it's almost like a point of contact with him. Plus, he's healthy in the dreams, not fading away as he was in hospital when he was ill, so it gives me a sense of normality.

Anyway, I hope you find some peace and rest soon, and that you can grieve properly.

Yes Sidge. I go through patches of a few nights where I dream of my parents and like you find it hard. The dreams were initially terrifying nightmares which have now changed to normal(ish) dreams, with only the occassional horrible one.

No advice I'm afraid, but lots of empathy for you. x