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It's 5 years ago today since my mum died.

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BecauseImWoeufit · 10/04/2009 21:24

Still concerned about the fact that I haven't really grieved for her.

Reading some threads here about bereavement have helped.

Anyway, I love you, my mummy.

And I miss you and think about you every day.

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Lilyloo · 10/04/2009 21:25

it is very hard

orangehead · 10/04/2009 21:26

Im sorry about your mum, hope you ok.

Hassled · 10/04/2009 21:28

Don't assume you haven't grieved - it comes in many different forms. Posting this was an expression of your grief. And it's not something that has a cut-off point - it will always be part of you.

I'm very sorry - it is so bloody hard.

Portoeufino · 10/04/2009 21:31

for you.

Mine died 36 years ago (I was 4) so I didn't even really KNOW her ifyswim. I still miss her.

To remember and miss the REAL Mum, must be awful.

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BecauseImWoeufit · 10/04/2009 21:40

Thank you, all.

I'm fine. I just get a bit cross sometimes, because she was only 66 and was really enjoying her life.

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BecauseImWoeufit · 10/04/2009 23:39

And I miss talking to her. We were only 21 years apart. There are so many things I would like to talk to her about, specifically the menopause.

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watsthestory · 10/04/2009 23:42

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policywonk · 10/04/2009 23:42

I'm sorry BIWI. I know what you mean about having things you'd like to talk to her about.

Raising a glass Del Monte Refreshing Iced Mango Smoothie to your lovely mum.

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BecauseImWoeufit · 10/04/2009 23:52

I think she would have preferred it with a gin in it, actually!

Sorry. I'm very appreciative of all your messages - just I know what she was like!

I suppose that's why I miss her really.

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2shoestrodonalltheeggs · 10/04/2009 23:55

bless you

policywonk · 11/04/2009 00:01

There's no substitute, is there.

I hae it when people say 'your mum is with you in spirit' and all that malarkey. No she isn't. If she was she'd be telling me wtf to do.

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BecauseImWoeufit · 11/04/2009 00:01

Thank you, 2shoes.

I'm OK now, actually. I know that my mum would not have wanted me (or my brother) to wallow. She was very much someone who wanted to live life to the full.

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Heathcliffscathy · 11/04/2009 00:06

thoughts going out to you because. x

2shoestrodonalltheeggs · 11/04/2009 00:06

BecauseImWoeufit I know, my mum died when I was 18 so a long time ago, and I still miss her.
I have a feeling missing my dad and greiving for him is going to take a long time(he has only been gone 2 months and omg I want him back) so be kind to yours self.

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BecauseImWoeufit · 11/04/2009 00:12

Sorry 2shoes hugs - I know that's not very MN.

There are no words, are there?

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