My nephew passed away this afternoon :-(

[SheSellsSeashellsByTheSeashore]

He took ill last night and went this afternoon. All I think is at least it didn't drag on for him and he is at peace now. He looked awfull this morning. I would have hated him to be like that for days.

It was awfull hearing his sister and his mum. You could hear their hearts break. DH seems to be coping a lot better than I thought as does MIL.

I'm coping, feel in shock and helpless really. I wish i could do more for them all but what can you do? Sil and bil know that there are people there for them. Niece is being looked after by a friend tonight.

Dd1 is okay. She is quiet and had a few questions like how do you get to heaven and what is it like, she thinks it's where there are lots of beds on clouds and you ride horses and eat marshmallows all day. I'll let her keep thinking that.

The Macmillan nurse was great. She took neice aside and talked to her and gave her a little book.

I don't really know what to do. Or even why I am posting. It helped reading your comments when I found out his cancer was terminal, so I guess that's why. I probably won't post long. I am just having a brandy and then I'm going to clean up. I feel like I need to do something.

Dh is at the pub, his mum asked him to go to let some of her friends know as she can't face them.

I'm so sorry for you all x

Thank you again. They have asked DH to be pole bearer at his funeral. He is concerned he will not be strong enough but I know he will get through it.

The funeral is Thursday. I am really not looking forward to having say goodbye for the last time

We are going to see sil and bil tomorrow. She is inundated with flowers so we think we are going to bring some wine instead.

Some of his friends have been posting some really nice slide shows of nephew on FB. DH would like to keep them so I have told him to buy a memory card and ask the people who are making them if they would mind saving them for us then we can get a digital photo frame to display them on.

I thought it would be a nice idea to get niece a digital keyring and fill it with pics of her and her brother and then she can always have him with her.

Dd1 is still quiet. I am sending her to school tomorrow as I think it is important things stay as normal as possible for her. But I will take her in the maind doors and ask to speak to her favourite TA and explain what has happened and that she can come home if she gets too upset.

I have no words for you

xxxxx

Oh shesells, I am so so sorrry

I'm so sorry to hear the news. My thoughts and prayers are with you are the rest of the family.{hugs}

How did DD1 get on at school today? How are you doing?

SeaShells, your ideas about what to do with the photos of your nephew for his family sound lovely.

Maybe your SIL and BIL would appreciate some flowers in a few weeks time when all the official stuff is over and people tend to withdraw.
They will have all sort of painful anniversaries to get through and I am sure your supportive presence will be even more important when the initial shock at the cruely of this loss has worn off.

Also hope your daughter is managing ok.

So sorry to read this, Seashells. Wishing you and your family strength and peace at this horrible time.

Goodness. I'm so sorry to hear this.

Keep talking to one another and being honest. You sound like a close and loving family and can help each other get through this awful time.

So sorry.

Seashells I am so sorry to hear about your nephew . The pain is unbelievable but it sounds like you are all a strong family which will make the world of difference .

My thoughts will be with you all tomorrow x