having a bad day...week....month

[melissa75]

Hi, I am feeling really down at the moment, mostly because I went to visit my DP and DC's graves in the last couple of weeks, it had been a while since I had been to visit, due to varying circumstances. My DP passed as a result of numerous injuries from a pretty horrific car accident as a result of black ice, and I was pregnant at the time with twins, and as a result of a lot of stresses and other issues, they both passed. I had the twins buried in the same grave with their dad, but this all happened within 5 months of each other (I was 3 months pregnant when he passed away). Anyway, I am just having a rough time at the moment, and having a difficult time picking up the pieces to get back into day to day life. I think some times it is easier than other times, this is one of those not easy times. Anyway, just needed to write it down somewhere.

Sorry for your losses

What a terrible time you have had. So sorry for your losses.

It is no wonder you are struggling. Do you have anybody to support you in RL?

thanks for the support. niecie, I do have support, I subsequently met and married a wonderful man and now am Mum to my DH's two children and we have a child together who is 2. I just think that noone really understands our losses besides someone who has been through it themselves, hence my posting here, as we all deal with bereavement in our own ways, and just sometimes find that others in my own life are not always understanding.

Sorry I didn't get back sooner.

I am glad you have some support and a new DC. Losing your family must have been a huge amount to deal with though, and if you have some bad days or weeks or months, I am not in the least surprised. I can't imagine how you are feeling but would think that it is something that you have to cope with every single day?

I was just wondering if you had considered counselling, or maybe you have had some already. I understand Cruse is very good. Even if you have been before perhaps it might be worth speaking to them again to get you over your current difficult time.

Anyway, even I am talking total nonsense I am giving you a little 'bump' in the hope that somebody a bit more useful than me might come along.

Niecie, please don't say that your not useful, you definately are, and I thank you for your post.
Cruse are fantastic, they were able to provide me with free counselling when I was having financial difficulties. I think because it is what they deal with everyday, they were very sympathetic and helpful. I am also a member of a few different groups, mainly for support on loss of a child, but there is not a lot out there to support in loss of a loved one who's an adult.

Thats an awful lot to deal with so i am not surprised you are struggling.
My husband died in june andi havefound WAY (widowed and young) very supportive, have a look and see if there is anything happening in your local area.

onlyjoking, thanks for the suggestion of WAY, I've not heard of them before, I will look into it. Sounds like they have been really helpful for you. Sorry for the loss of your partner.