Mother's Day is coming - anyone up for a bit of mutual support

[dizzydixies]

my mum passed away after a long illness in July last year, I had to bury her and then have DD3 two days later I've generally been ok as she was SO ill but it seemed in that final stretch before going into hospital and hospice for the last time that she was on great form - maybe she knew.

I am beginning to feel it now walking into every shop and having mother's day shoved in my face. I wasn't going to be on my own on mother's day as DH was on days off but he's been recalled to work and cannot get out of it I KNOW I'll be with my girls but I was just looking for that support from DH, even if it hadn't occurred to him that I might need a bit extra effort from him this year, at least he would have been there. DD1 will know what mother's day is as she is 5 but I don't think she'll understand if I'm a bit sad. DD2 is only 2 so it won't be any different to any other day for her and DD3 is only 32wks so not even an issue.

I really feel like just ignoring it completely even if being a mum is my best role in life

so, anyone want to join me in some mutual support?

it does get sort of easier as the years go by.
I am so not looking forward to fathers day

I think it would have been easier if DH hadn't been called in to work

I know how you feel I'm not even near enough to visit her grave and doubt my brother will even though he's in the next village - my dad will them take the huff with me as well

Just popping in to wish you all a peaceful Mother's Day and hope it's not too hard for you. My mum died 16 months ago (like you, Dizzydixies, it was close to a birth, 8 days after my dd was born) and I know how hard Mothers Day is.

It's not Mothers Day where I am (NZ), they celebrate it in May here so it's not too hard for me. Yesterday would have been my mum's birthday though. It was easier this year, last year was awful.

Well, it's been crap. So not looking forward to Fathers' Day.

Hope you all got through okay.

I am renaming fathers day this year, it will be "insert dh's" name day. I have been in a funny mood all day. I just want to ring my dad,

not coping particularly well today and DH has made nothing of it either, fecker

I actually think I'm worse today than I was yesterday. DH's lack of ANY effort at all coupled by the fact that neither my dad or my best friend could be arsed to phone to see how I was my brother went to put flowers on her grave from both of us and I feel awful for not being nearer so I could do something similar - I have ordered a lovely white pebble to be engraved with the word MUM on it so I can take it next time I'm down but it just doesn't seem enough

if I go out today am going to have to do something serious with my eyes as they look awful from crying this morning - lack of sleep hasn't helped either

(((((((Dizzy)))))))

thanks Red, am not sure I was ready to feel like this, I pride myself on coping and I just wish that someone would come along and ask how I'm doing for once

how are you getting on? did you have nice time away with DD?

Dizz - I'm the same but have decided that now is not the time to have to cope. I flick a switch when I'm in public or with other people but with DH I let it all out. Please don't bottle things up too much honey.

god Red the chance would be a fine thing, am greeting on people if they're nice to me, strangers or not even the poor woman at the rainbows when I collected DD1 on Tuesday was a bit

I'm glad you aren't bottling things up. I've just dropped the cat off at the vets for a couple of teeth to be extracted and told the nurse that she had to take special care of my cat as I couldn't lose him so soon after my parents.

oh I wouldn't be embarrassed about that, our dog is as much a part of our family too

finally managed to have a chat with DH this morning too so thats made me feel a bit better too