sorry need to get this of my chest

[2shoes]

there was only me , Dad and Db(plus partners) so my family felt very small,
so a few years back I got back in touch and visited my auntie and uncle, it was brilliant suddenly I had a large family, I always fet very welcomed and part of the family.
so we visited a couple of time as year sometimes more(they live a 2 hr drive away out of season)
anyway auntie died, all during her illness, i emailed my fave cousen(who is loads older than me) and supported her as best I could, we also visisted and of course went to the funeral.

well my dad gets ill goes down hill real quil and dies..
I get 1 email a card but no phone call. not one of them came to the funeral(got cards) and my cousen hasn't been in touch since.
this was her uncle ffs, ok not close of late, but he and my mum were back in the day.
I feel really let down and lonely. I understand why my uncle couldn't come he is old and infirm, but surely one of them could have!!
and ok so she has retired so isn't on the pc loads, but she sends me joke emails, so why no a real one.....

(thanks )

Oh 2shoes. That stinks, it really does. I was hurt - but not suprised - that my cousin didn't travel up from London for my Dad's funeral. His Mum is Dad's only sibling and I felt he should have been there for his Mum if noone else.

I totally understand why you are hurting but do try not to dwell on it and let it consume you though. People are strange - end of, unfortunately.

Much love. x

sorry about your dad 2shoes

I can't explain or justify their behaviour, maybe something is going on in her life (thats no excuse but I know that when life is tough sometimes you dont feel that you can support anyone except yourself?) That may sound selfish as you sound like a giving selfless person, its just how some people are.

I asked her son(on fb) if she was ok and he said yes.

2shoes I am really sorry to hear about your dad . UNfortunately some people are really rubbish at dealing with grief . Its a crap excuse and no good to you but it isn't about you or your dad its about them being crap.

How long ago did youe auntie die ? Maybe for her its too close to home for her to deal with .Shite excuse I know but I am trying to be nice.

2shoes I know exactly how you feel. My db died last November and none of our cousins, most of whom all live in the same town as db did, came to the funeral or even just sent a card. We have heard nothing from any of them.

I found this very upsetting and completely thoughtless and disrespectful of them, especially as he died so young and tragically.