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MB, OJ and other widows - I am thinking of you

28 replies

TheGarishlyTwinkleyMadHouse · 30/12/2008 09:11

Martin Bishop, OJ and other widows, I just wanted to let you know that I am thinking of you at what must be a really hard time.

I am very lucky indeed to be spending Christmas and the new year with my husband and family and I am sorry that yours can not be with you.

I hope you are surving and that the children have had a good christmas. You are in my thoughts.

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Habbibu · 30/12/2008 21:33

Hear hear, madhouse. Thinking of everyone who's missing someone desperately right now.

Clary · 30/12/2008 21:35

I have been thinking of MB and OJ in partic and others who have lost loved ones this year and in previous years - Yorkiegirl too.

No profound thoughts really, but just to let you know others are thinking of you.

NorthernLurker · 30/12/2008 21:37

Just posting to join with these warm thoughts.

Deemented · 30/12/2008 21:41

This has been my first Christmas and New Year without my hubbs. TBH, i could have easily cancelled it, if it were not for my four year old - i had to show willing for him.

It's fucking harder then i ever imagined it could be.

Hulababy · 30/12/2008 21:43

I am so sad that anyone has to go through such a loss and you are all in my thoughts especially at this time of the year.

NorthernLurker · 30/12/2008 21:43

Oh Deemented - have you got plans for tomorrow - will somebody be with you?

Deemented · 30/12/2008 21:58

Believe it or not, i'm in the middle of moving house - we have to move as the home we are in now was adapted for disabled access and someone else now needs it. So my son will be at my dads and i will be here with the baby, surrounded by boxes and suchlike. I aim to stay up just to make sure that this year has finally gone.

Yorkiegirl · 30/12/2008 21:59

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liahgen · 30/12/2008 22:02

I will certainly raise a glass to all you brave ladies who will be seeing in the new year without your loved ones tomorrow.

Be strong, wish them a new year at the stroke of 12, and enjoy some of your memories. x

liahgen · 30/12/2008 22:02

sod it, wish them a happy new year that should have read.

Habbibu · 30/12/2008 22:03

Deemented - I haven't been in your position, but I do know what it's like to want to see the back of a year. Hope it passes as peacefully as it can, and that the move goes well.

Deemented · 30/12/2008 22:04

He's very up and down. Sudden bursts of anger and agression, which is completely out of character. He's been through so much in the last eight months... having a baby sister.. his beloved daddy dying... then his nana... and now we have to move too. It's blowing my mind, let alone his.

I guess we get through it because we have to. The only other option is to shrivel into a ball and let things fall apart... but that's not really an option, is it?

Myrrhcy · 30/12/2008 22:05

Adding my own best wishes to you all.

My mum was widowed when she was nearly 46 and said the important dates (Christmas, birthdays etc) were very hard in the first year.

I was an adult when my father died but my brothers were in their teens; even so, my mum said she continued to celebrate certain events for the sake of her children - and it was a source of comfort for her even though it didn't seem that way at the time.

Yorkiegirl · 30/12/2008 22:10

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Deemented · 30/12/2008 22:35

Im in Welshy wales.

Yorkiegirl · 31/12/2008 16:13

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Deemented · 01/01/2009 00:10

Can i just say that i am so fucking angry right now. How dare he fucking leave me. I don't know how to do this on my own, and i'm scared. I want him back and i miss him so fucking much. Last year i had everything... we were looking forward to being parents agin - had just found out it was a girl, hubbs was delighted. Now i have to do this on my own and i'm not sure if i can.

wrinklytum · 01/01/2009 00:12

Oh Demented {{{{{{{{{{{{Hug}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

kid · 01/01/2009 00:18

My thoughts are also with you X

bellavita · 01/01/2009 09:25

Thinking of you all xxxx

NAB3lovelychildren · 01/01/2009 09:27

I also went to bed thinking of you all.

Puts everything in perspective.

Much love to you all.

lottiejenkins · 01/01/2009 17:18

Deemented.........has anyone mentioned Winstons Wish to you for help with your ds?
they are an excellent charity who helped my ds when his dad/grandad and male carer died in the last few years!
www.winstonswish.org.uk/

Deemented · 01/01/2009 17:59

Hi Lottie - yes, i've been in contact with Winstons Wish, and unfortunately they are unable to help as there just aren't any services for bereaved children where i live. The nearest one to me is in North Wales, or in Sussex, and i just can't travel that far, what with the baby as well. I know they do a residential course for bereaved children, but they have to be six years or older, so that's no good to us either, not for a few years anyways.

But thanks for thinking of us

lottiejenkins · 01/01/2009 20:00

WW have a branch in West Sussex........
www.winstonswish.org.uk/page.asp?section=000100010007&pagetitle=Contact+Us

lottiejenkins · 01/01/2009 20:04

Sorry just re read your post and thought you said you WERE in Sussex!! Lottie makes note to self to read posts PROPERLY!!