One of the boys at work died last night and i'm not sure how to feel ....................

[blushingm]

we are a close team of 12 and has all worked together for years. This boy has been a drinker since we've known him - tried rehab etc but's it's never worked. About 5 years ago he lost his dad to drink but it didn't seem to make him stop. His mum died of terminal cancer earlier this year and he's started getting better. He got married in august to a girl he'd met on the internet but he's been signed off work 'sick' since but hr were not allowed to say why. Anyway last night after a week of gastric flu he died. He was 35
I'm not sure what to feel - it seems a bit false to be upset and sad and shocked......but i am

It's a shock and you will have someone missing from your team. It's not false.

Very bad time of year for something like this to happen

and it gets worse - by best friend on the team her dad dropped down dead from a heart attack yesterday too - he was only 49. this is all just horrible

I'm very sorry to hear of both your losses.

I think losses of work colleagues hit harder than people realise, especially if you have worked with someone for a long time. We spend such a large percentage of our time at work after all.

My boss died 3 years ago, he was at work in the morning but went home feeling ill. At about 3pm his boss came into the office and told me that he had died. I was stunned. I think that was a heart attack too, and he was 51. I still miss him a lot, I worked with him for 13 years and he was more like a favourite uncle.

its not flase to feel sad
35 is too young to die and is tragic no matter what the circs

Very sorry to hear your sad news blushingm

How sad. Not false to feel upset at all.

thanks all

been talking to my friend via text - she's in birmingham where her dad lives/lived - she was meant to be spending christmas with him for the firstt time in his new house.......she says she can't believe he's gone and she'll never have a hug from her daddy ever agin..............it set me off so she's must feel absolutely broken
my friend from work -there is to be a post mortem on my friend, apparently itwas internal bleeding