What can we do to mark DS's anniversary

[oopsadaisyangel]

DS2 was stillborn on 19th December last year. We're unsure what to do to mark it - we're going to go to the crematorium and go to the rose garden but want to do something else as well to remember him. Just want to something really simple and reserved - I'm due again in 4 weeks and don't want to get myself too upset - although I know it?s inevitable!

Can I have your ideas please?

Oopsa x

maybe plant a tree in your garden or a rose bush of a favourite colour of you or his sibling(s)? i know it's a bit cold today (well, here anyway) but the garden centre should be able to advise.
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Oopsadaisyangel........have you seen our thread on here for bereaved mums?
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/bereavement/644485-Fraser-39-s-thread-for-bereaved-mummies-Death-leaves-a

Some of the mums on there may be able to help you. My ds Jack would have been 14 on December 22nd so i know how hard you must find this time of year......... Have you thought of letting a balloon go with your ds's name on it?

Hi Oops

We had yellow roses in my DS's funeral flowers so we planted a yellow rose bush in our garden as a reminder of him. Lots of my bereaved friends on another website let a balloon go as lottie suggested too.

It was my DS's 1st birthday this year and I found the build up to the day was worse than the actual day itself if that makes sense? I timed my 2nd pregnancy terribly and my baby was born the day before DS's birthday so I was still in hospital recovering from a c section so I was unable to visit his grave.

www.hawkin.com/find/keyword-is-lanterns

I know of a few people that have used similar lanterns to these on anniversaries .

As its so close to christmas how about buying a really nice tree ornament ?

It is really hard to know what to do isn't it ? If its any consolation I know that most people find the run up to the day a lot harder than the day itself .

Sorry I meant to say how sorry I am for your loss and I will be looking out for your birth announcement thread .

Oh sweetheart - could I just second Lotties message - lovley bunch of ladies on the bereaved mummies thread. Its not all doom, gloom and sadness either.....we have been known to be quite drunk and tell rude jokes.

What about a special Christmas tree decoration? Maybe a new fairy, angel or star for the top?

Im so sorry for your loss. Please think about coming and joining us on the other thread - you will get loads of support and a few smiles along the way.

Sorry - not Lottie - TW last message.

I am loosing my mind - it is official. LOTTIES LINK MESSAGE!

travellingwhilbury those lanters are fantastic, i've never seen those before.

Thank you ladies - I've wandered over to the other thread too!

Perhaps plant a Christmas tree in your garden and put lights on it on his birthday every year.

I love the Christmas tree idea! x