My mum died 6 weeks ago and I'm really upset by the way her old work colleagues are not considering my family's felings at all.
My mum worked in the same academic department for 30 years. She had to retire in 2001 due to ill health through her drinking and they were not particularly gentlemanly about it, although she did need to go. Anyway, the thing I am cross about is: first, they orgnaised an obituary in the local paper but didn't contact any of the family about it. We only found out when a neighbour came round with it. Secondly, they are organising a memorial event for her but none of the family have been formally informed or invited. They seem to think we'll get the message 'through the grapevine.' AIBU to think this is piss poor?
Sorry, don't usually swear but I am fuming. I've sent them a very short email to ask for details. I don't even think they are going to be ashamed of themselves.
I've been expecting someone to call or email for days and I'm now just so upset. It may seem like a small thing but it feels so disrespectful to her let alone us.