3rd miscarriage this year

[Noleeen]

Hi, i am new to this and have no idea what i am doing so here goes. I have just siffered my third miscarrige this year. I went off birth contrpl pill at beginning of year, fell pregnant straight away but lost it at 5wks, natural m/c - blighted ovumn. I actually fell pregnant again straight away after this with no period in between, had an early scan at 6wks 5days, saw fetal pol and heartbeat, was so excited from here on in. I went for my next scan at 12wks only to be told it measured 8wks and no longer a h/b, i was completely devastated, i had been tracking the growth of the baby every week and what it would look like only to find out it had died 4wks before, D&C was required this time. I had a period between this and fell pregnant again only to start bleeding again 5days later, natural m/c once again in the form of a chemical pregnancy. I have had blood tests done and so far only got 3 results back, bloodclotting, rubella and one for antibodies all of which have been normal, i am still waiting on another 4. I am 26 years of age and am so scared at the prospect that i will never have a baby of my own. I still think about all 3 m/c BUT it is the 2nd one that has affected me the most and although this happened in July i still get really upset about it.

I am very sorry for what you are going through - it is oh so familiar to me.
I don't want to frighten you, but I have had 6 mcs and an ectopic pregnancy (with removal of ruptured tube)
No tests have ever showed any reason for the mcs.

However - I do also have 3 gorgeous girls...so don't give up hope. take time to get over this..and whilst the temptation is to rush in and get pregnant again, if you can bear it then how about having a 3 month break to let your body get back to normal?

I am currently back on my birth control pill and am allowing myself AT LEAST 6 months to get my body and myself fully repaired. It is frightning that this could happen again but it will be worth all the pain if someday i can just have a baby to call my own

I am so sorry to hear your sad news of 3 m/c.

At first, it felt like I was reading about myself. I also got pregnant in quick succession 3 times, only to m/c 3 times.

Each pregnancy last a few weeks longer than the previous one.

I thought I would never have a baby. I read up on what my chances were after 3 m/c, and thought about it all the time. I searched and searched for just one story of a woman having a baby after 3 m/c, but didn't get very far.

My partner and I were advised to have blood tests done to see if the hospital could find out what was wrong, but we never got round to having them done.

I discovered I was pg for the 4th time, and on the advice of my GP, without any results from blood tests, I started taking folic acid and one junior aspirin a day. I had a trouble free pregnancy, although I worried so much and I am now the proud mother of a gorgeous baby daughter.
I hope this gives you hope that after 3 m/c, you still have a good chance of having a troublefree pregnancy.

I wanted to respond to you too. I can really relate to your message.

I had my fourth m/c 2 weeks ago at 12+ weeks, it was also a missed m/c and we will bury our tiny baby next week. My three previous m/c were also in a row, at the beginning of us trying for a family (at a similar age to you). No explanation was ever found for them.

But, as with others above, in between then & now we had two textbook pregnancies & we have two girls. It can & does work.

I understand that this may not necessarily help you right now but I can really relate to how you feel, I've been there and it's not a good place. With the latest missed m/c, I felt that my body had cheated me, I still felt very pregnant and yet my baby had died inside me. I wish I'd known what was happening & I wish my baby was safe inside me, heart beating.

I also wish you well, I hope things work out very soon for you.

A friend recommended
www.foresight-preconception.org.uk for preconceptual care (she is a midwife & her comment was 'it can't do any harm & it may do some good'). I found this book Miscarriage: Women's Experiences and Needs (Paperback)
by Christine Moulder to be very helpful in helping me to make sense of what I felt & coming to terms with what was happening to me.

frogthistle So sorry for your previous and most recent loss. It does give me hope for the future when i hear of people who have been through similar situations and went on to have a healthy pregnancy, i always wanted about 3 kids but to be honest now i would be every bit as happy with one just to call 'my own'. I am currently waiting at least 6months (which will take me to March'09) before trying again and am living in hope that the doctor was right and that my body just hadn't repaired itself. I feel the same as you about the missed m/c in the sense that i had no idea anything was wrong and didn't think it would happen twice, never mind 3 times.