just wanted to share this poem which I found immenseley comforting when I lost a dd 4 years ago
My Two Sides
Why did this have to happen to us?
You may never know the answer to that.
Am I being punished?
How could you think of something so precious as punishment?
I feel so empty.
Yes, but this was not always so.
Remember how long you had her with you.
I don?t know if I can bear this pain.
It is tremendous, but you chose to take your pain and hers.
Would it have been better if I had not known you at all?
No. You are blessed to have been touched by this life.
I wanted you so badly.
Oh, but she wanted you too. You were chosen from all others.
I had so much love to give.
And you did. She knew nothing but your love.
I would have been a good mother to you.
You were. You made the decision only a good mother could.
I wanted to protect you from the world.
You did. She only experienced
the comfort and safety of your womb.
I wanted to have you with me forever.
She will always be with you. To love, time does not exist.
I would give anything to hold you once more.
You will hold her in your heart forever.
(Author unknown ?found on internet)