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God bless you Dad- Rest in peace

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yorkiemom · 12/09/2008 19:36

This really carries on from my previous thread, where I will always be eternally grateful for all the kind words and support I received.

My lovely Dad finally lost his fight to pancreatic cancer on Wednesday the 10th September at 6.25pm.
He was at home, in his own bed with all his family around him- His mom and dad, wife, 8 children, and our lovely Macmillan Nurse Tina.

I just wanted to put it in writing really how much I love you Dad, and always will.

Bless you Dad, and rest in peace xxx

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BoysAreLikeDogs · 12/09/2008 19:37

I am so sorry for your loss yorkiemom

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masalachameleon · 12/09/2008 19:38

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dustystar · 12/09/2008 19:40

So sorry for you loss.

fedupandisolated · 12/09/2008 19:43

So sorry for your loss yorkiemom. Just so glad for your Dad that he was able to be in his own bed at home with his beloved family all around him.

Much love to you and your family.

Tigerschick · 12/09/2008 19:43

So sorry for your loss
x

twinsetandpearls · 12/09/2008 19:44

I will include you in my prayers.

BecauseImWorthIt · 12/09/2008 19:44

Sorry for your loss, yorkiemom

Sidge · 12/09/2008 19:46

I'm sorry your dad has died

I hope he had a peaceful end surrounded by all those that love him.

mashedbanana · 13/09/2008 11:52

he is now at peace x so sorry for your loss x

DrHorrible · 13/09/2008 12:12

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nickytwotimes · 13/09/2008 12:14

for you yorkiemum.
Glad you were all there with him.
I hope you get lots of support from each other.

Buda · 13/09/2008 12:23

for you yorkiemum. So sorry for your loss.

trulymadlydeeply · 13/09/2008 14:40

So sorry he's gone, Yorkiemum, but hope he's found peace.

xxx

onlyjoking9329 · 13/09/2008 20:58

sorry he had to go i know you will be feeling allsorts of things, i hope that one day you will be able to take comfort from knowing you did the best you could for him and that you were able to be with him until the end.

spudmasher · 13/09/2008 21:10

Oh yorkiemom I really do empathise. You did the most you possibly could and you should feel very proud and satisfied with that. I am sure you will have spent moments of great love and closeness during those final days. I hope the sad memories of the awful illness fade quickly to make way for the wonderful memories you will have of your dad in better health. Much love to you at this sad time.

Blandmum · 13/09/2008 21:11

I'm so sorry to read this

mshadowsisfab · 13/09/2008 21:12

very sorry for your loss
(2shoes)

Elasticwoman · 13/09/2008 21:26

His suffering has ended. Be comforted by his memory, yorkiemum.

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yorkiemom · 14/09/2008 20:24

It is a sort of comfort that we were all there at the end, and hopefully my dad knew he was loved so very much, and even his own mom and dad were there.
But atthe moment I can't get those last pictures out of my head. I can see the pain and confusion in my dad's eyes, and I will never forge what its like to watch someone take their last breath, it was just so bloody awful.

I'm not sure if I want to go and see dad in the chapel of rest on Friday, his funeral is the following Monday. I don't know if he will look better (sounds stupid I know!) , but I keep thinking it will be my last chance to give him a kiss. I really want to hold his hand. I don't know.

What I do know is that I'm going to get involved in the charity our local hospital run into upper G I cancers. Having never had anyone close even have cancer I really never understood what a cruel illness, and there has to be some way to dectect these silent cancers sooner.
I hope in a little time I'll be able to face the hospital without my dad by my side, as its been for the past 9 months.

I'm rambling again now, so will go and get my PJ'S on and write my ds birthday card, he's 4 tomorrow, and with everything I have'nt even got him a present!
So it's shopping tomorrow, no matter how crap I feel, its the little bugger's birthday, dad, as you called him.

Goodnight
xxx

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Helsbels4 · 14/09/2008 20:34

Hi yorkiemom, its a really tough decision whether you go and see your dad in the chapel of rest or not as everyone feels things differently. I went to see my mum after she died and although it was horrendous to see her lying in a coffin not looking how she did when she was alive (they hadn't done her hair right!) I'm so glad that I had that final chance to kiss her and tell her I love her etc. My dad and two brothers were with me and we put little knick-knacks in with her such as photos and little notes and things. It really is down to you though and how you see things. It is an incredibly difficult time and my heart goes out to you, it really does.

toodles · 14/09/2008 20:39

So sorry for your loss Yorkiemom.
May your father's memory be eternal.

Rubyrubyruby · 14/09/2008 20:41

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supercollider · 14/09/2008 20:45

Very sorry to hear this yorkiemom.

Salleroo · 14/09/2008 21:59

Ahh, so sorry to hear this news. I'll be thinking about you tomorrow. x