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my poor daddy I feel so sad

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2shoes · 08/09/2008 18:06

my dad rang me to day to tell me my sm died this morning.
she had been ill for years, but it was still a shock
I feel so sad and it feels weird.
sm and I didn't have a mum/daughter relationship. my mum died when I was 18 and my dad married her a couple of years later. so I was too grown up to build a dd relationship.
but she had been part of my life for so long. I feel really upset. but suprised at how sad and upset I feel.
and oh my poor old dad. he will be feeling so sad. luckily sm oldest freind was staying with him(so they can greive together) and he has loads of good freinds who will be able to support him.
I wish I knew how I was supposed to ffel and act.
I had to tell ds that his nan had died
he might be 16 but he was upset.
dd was brill. she has cp and so I started to tell her how ill nan had been and she just looked at the ceiling(heaven).
sorry to go on. but bit mixed up.

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Jacaranda · 08/09/2008 18:07

so sorry how sad for you all

herbietea · 08/09/2008 18:10

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BoysAreLikeDogs · 08/09/2008 18:11

I am so sorry for your loss 2shoes.

And sad for your poor daddy too. To have lost two wives must feel very cruel to him.

lulumama · 08/09/2008 18:12

of course you are feeling sad and mixed up. it is a difficult time. but bereavement is never easy or straighforward. do what you feel is right for you, there is no right or wrong in grief.

noddyholder · 08/09/2008 18:14

So sorry 2shoes Hope your dad is ok xx

ilookbetterwithdrink · 08/09/2008 18:20

Thats so sad. Im sorry for your loss. x

needsupport · 08/09/2008 18:20

im very sorry x

mehgalegs · 08/09/2008 18:22

Love to you and your family 2shoes. Sorry to hear your sad news. x

mashedbanana · 08/09/2008 19:38

sorry to hear of your loss xx

Mamazon · 08/09/2008 19:41

oh 2shoes im so sorry.

I think what your feeling is shock. once this imitial numb feeling subsides you will get the emotional respionse you think you should get.

You may not have had a mother daughter bond but i am sure you had a bond of some strength.

i know these are a big faux pas on here but i just don't care (((hugs)))

onlyjoking9329 · 08/09/2008 21:24

sorry to see your news 2shoes, you are bound to feel mixed up it is a shock and you will be numb for a while. take care of yourself and your Dad

Wezzle · 08/09/2008 21:34

So sorry 2shoes

Hoping your Dad is ok

Much love to you all x

2shoes · 08/09/2008 21:46

thanks everyone(and thanks for the hug mamazon)
my bruv is goint to see him tommorow and will stay the night. I am going at the weekend. just not sure if we are all going or just me and ds. will see how my dad feels.
poor man he has had a rough deal. my mum had cancer for 18 years. so lots of caring for him. and sm was ill for yonks.

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BigGitDad · 08/09/2008 21:50

So sorry to hear 2shoes, my thoughts are with you and your family.

JRocks · 08/09/2008 21:51

Sorry for your loss

2shoes · 10/09/2008 17:25

thank you for your kind posts.
my dad seems to be ok. big bruv has been with him the last couple of days. and I will be going on saturday. can't wait to give him a big hug.

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onlyjoking9329 · 11/09/2008 23:52

Glad he has someone with him 2shoes, thinking of you all.

mrswotzisnotin · 11/09/2008 23:54

2shoes I am so sorry to hear this {{{{{{{hugs and thoughts are with you and your family}}}}}}}

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