Ideas for marking my mum's 10th anniversary in a meaningful way

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I’m really feeling the need to do something special and relevant to mark Mums upcoming 10th anniversary. Ive been missing her so much lately. I’m hoping for suggestions please cos all I can think of is toasting her with a glass of champagne ( not that she ever drank it!).

Some relevant info
I wont be with my family on the day .
She doesnt have a grave or place I can visit
She wasn’t religious and neither am I
I dont have a garden so cant plant a tree etc.

I know its only symbolic and I talk to her all the time anyway but I really feel it might help me.

All suggestions gratefully recieved

What about scattering some seeds such as forgetmenots somewhere she loved?

Did she have a favourite poem or song? You could recite or sing it in her favourite place?

Or find a lovely photo of you both together and get it framed to hang somewhere special in your home?

Or donate some money to her favourite cause or charity?

You can have a lovely day for yourself, maybe incorporate some things she would enjoy.

Trip to the seaside, posh lunch? Champagne sounds fabulous to me. I’m sure she would want you to treat yourself

What did you do with your mum when she was alive? For example, could you treat yourself to a nice lunch/go on a walk/massage at a spa/visit a museum she liked - anything that includes something she enjoyed? In the evening you could light a candle and share some thoughts with her. I always think a flame is a comforting to watch.

She loved Doris Day and Frank Sinatra Maybe I could listen to some of her songs? I like the idea of lighting a candle. I might go to the garden centre and buy a rose although I’m not good with plants . @OrsolaRosso Sadly I don’t have any photos of the two of us when I was an adult. I don’t know why. I have framed photos of her though

Thanks everyone - this is helping

Did she have a favorite piece of music or a favourite meal?

So sorry

Was there a charity she supported? You can make a donation in her memory.

I already donate to the charity that supports people with the condition she had so I think she’d be happy with that.

im thinking of walking to somewhere quite remote and just saying out loud how much I miss her and all the things I wish I said when she was alive. But I’m scared it would make me feel worse not better?

Great idea. It may make you feel emotional, sad maybe, but that's ok.

I got the charity Trees for Streets to plant a tree in a location that was meaningful to us. Maybe have a look and see if there are any planting locations near you?

Yes to a candle maybe a scented one in a jar ? I burn an LED candle for my parents birthdays , leave it in the porch overnight ( LED for safety)
We have no graves , we scattered the ashes for both parents together .

A walk sounds lovely , take a flask maybe and something to eat . Music on your phone ?

Is there a meal/ingredient she loved, or something that has a special memory attached (a seafood pasta on a family holiday for example)?

If so you could have that as your main meal of the day alongside raising a glass to her. Have the music she loved playing in the background and perhaps look through some old photos if you have them