Would sending cards to loved ones who have died feel comforting?

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I lost my mum ten years ago and every Mother's Day since, I have felt as if I should stand to the side. That it's not for me any longer. I respect that we all grieve differently, but for me, I have wanted to 'opt in' and celebrate and honour my mum with a card, just like I used to. She may not longer be here, but she still matters. I felt like I lost my mum, and then I lost being able to take part in Mother's Day too.

So I have created cards that come with a real, dedicated postal address. So you can write from your heart and actually post the card to someone you've lost. I like being able to address the card, writing my mother's name. You can take part in Mothers or Father's Days or send a card on any day meaningful to you, as the postal address is available all year.

Sadly I lost my beautiful dad at the end of January this year. And this will be the first Father's Day I have without him. So I need the cards for him now too.

All the cards that are posted are carefully collected. At the end of each year we will create an art tribute from them, honouring all those we have lost. This will be shared back to everyone who bought and sent a card, creating community from our individual losses.

This is a business, which I am not taking any money or salary from at present. It is costing me to create it, with the funding coming from my own pocket, which I hope makes it OK to talk about it here.

I would welcome (kind) feedback or opinions, as I am just starting out. We are called Miss You Mail and are 3 months old.

My aim is to help continue connections to those we have lost. My grief isn't something to get over, but a new way of living with my wonderful parents who I miss so very much. I want to continue my connection to them and purposefully honour and remember them on days that are significant to me, with a card. Writing can help make sense of loss and gives feelings a place to go.

Thank you so much for reading.

Karin
@miss.you.mail

Our local crematorium does something similar with a notice board. (I’ve used this) There’s also the telephone to heaven idea.
I think they are all lovely ideas and if they bring comfort, they are doing no harm.

I think people might find comfort in them. The thing that would stop me though is wondering who would read the card, how would they be kept and ultimately disposed of and is there any chance of my private message being shared with someone not of my choosing or who might share what I’ve written with someone socially (in a that’s so sad kind of way).

I find it an odd idea. But I'm Irish where the months mind (memorial service 1 month after a death) and annual anniversary mass for a loved one is a thing. Im not a practicing Catholic, but the structure around a death is very comforting.

The local city cemetery has a special white ‘postbox’ for such correspondence, indicating that some people would find comfort in this.

Personally don't like thd idea of this at all. Maybe if you worded it in a different way. But the idea of posting cards to a deceased loved one at a fictitious address. No that doesn't sit well with me,