Son's nursery teacher desperately ill

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basically, she is dying. It's awful, she didn't even know she was sick until a few weeks ago. DS has no idea. I've known her for the last 4 years as DD also went to the same nursery and DH's family have known her for a long, long time. We want to send her a card but I don't know what to say. Get Well obviously isn't appropriate. I want to say something like, 'we just want you to know that we are all thinking of you.' What else can I say?

I am rubbish at this sort of thing but bumping for someone else!!

What you've suggested so far sounds great, but I would also take the opportunity to tell her how much her input into yours and your children's lves has meant.

I think you have put it well. What else can you say?

Does she know that you know she is dying iyswim.

If she does, I would want to say thank you, for everything that she's done for you and your ds's. Let her know that she played an important part in their (and your)lives.

Now is the time for saying how you feel.

Cross posts with pinkshinyshoes.

I thought about saying something like, 'we are so grateful for all the wonderful support and encouragement you have given the DCs over the years' but that just sounds so final. I also want to tell her how much she will be missed. Even though it is final I guess it's so hard to say something like that IYKWIM. Would you want to hear that or do you think it's just too hard to hear?

Also, what can we do for her for an end-of-term gift? We'd all done a collection weeks ago from all the pre-school mums (ie all the kids who are off to P1 in August) to get each of the 4 nursery teachers vouchers. But she's not really going to be able to make much use of a voucher now. What can we do with the money for her? I don't really know if she's got only a few weeks left or months, although it doesn't sound that way.

A beautiful orchid and a photo collage of the children?

bump

Is she at home or in a hospice? I agree that a photo of the children would be a lovely gift, or I was thinking of something with a gorgeous scent as you can still derive pleasure from this when your eyesight is not good and concentration is flagging.
I'm so terribly sorry. My two are nursery veterans and there are several wonderful women from those times whom we would be so sad to lose.
I think emphasising how grateful you are without saying why you are saying it now is fine, myself. Remember that whatever you write will probably be treasured by her family as well as her, so don't be hesitant to convey how much her loving care for your dcs has meant to you.

Agree with Marina. What you write will be very important to those she leaves behind, so don't be afraid to say how you feel - that she is a wonderful person who has helped to shape your children in their very early years. The photo is a lovely idea too.