I got given Nana's engagement ring today - I was a bit shocked

[KatyMac]

I wasn't expecting it until after the funeral

But I put it on and it fits perfectly

I had been wondering if it would feel odd wearing it - as the only time Nana hadn't worn it was during the time she was dying in hospital. But it looks fine not odd at all.

My mum pointed out that although I had never tried it on (as she didn't take it off) it had been 'mine' since I was about 5 or 6 so I had 'owned' it for over 30 years.

I have given her piano to the EMI home where she had lived for the last 18 months - DD & I need to sort out a plaque - not sure what we want it to say

We cleared out the room at the home today & it was quite hard, but I'm glad it's done.

It feels very odd to know she isn't there anymore

Awww

Thanks

I feel a bit more stable now

We are getting the funeral planned

Oh, Katymac, I missed this - I'm so sorry.

The ring is obviously meant to be on your finger

Thanks

I guess so

KatyMac, I wear my grandma's wedding ring with my own. Comforting to know there's a part of her with me all the time. I'm sure you feel the same.

Thinking of you. My own Nanna died only 6 weeks before my brother. I know how hard this is xx

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I'm starting to get used to wearing it now

DD was a bit upset

Will you wear your Nana's ring all the time? I have worn my Nanny's eternity ring since she died and it makes me think of her everyday. I love having something of hers so close.

xx

I'm not sure tbh

My hands and feet are all swollen atm so not yet anyway

Katymac, I have a beautiful diamond ring which belonged to my grandmother. When I first got it, it seemed too expensive/valuable to wear. I was going to put it in a drawer and wear it for special occasions.

Then, I thought about my grandmother and her love for jewellery, parties and fun. I decided to wear it every day, and enjoy looking at it and admiring it.

I'm so glad I made the decision to wear it. Like feedmenow, it reminds me of my grandmother in such a good way. I know she would have approved of me wearing it, rather than hiding it away.

Enjoy your lovely ring.

I think I will when my hands calm down

I also need to decide what to wear for the funeral - she would have hated to see me in black - whenever I wore it she said put some colour on

I think it's lovely that you have her ring. When DH and I got married (last year), my stepmother gave me a ring that my father had given her not long before he died - I love wearing it; it's a sort of constant gentle reminder. And if your ring fits permanently then it was meant to be.

Thanks - I think I will

my mum died just under 2 weeks ago. my dad has given me her wedding ring for my daughter, who is 14. she's the only grand-daughter. i was turning it round on my mum's finger while i held her hand. i just feel like crying and crying.

That's very tough, hatjam, I'm so sorry for your loss, and for yours KatyMac. In time the jewellery will come to mean happy memories, even though it feels painful right now. It took me years to wear my mother's jewellery that I inherited, but now I love it. I was especially pleased to see in the Sex and the City movie that Carrie wore an almost exact replica of my Mum's 30th wedding anniversary earrings for her wedding. Mum was clearly a fashionista.

thanks califrau - i need all the {} i can get at the moment. x

Katy I hope that the ring helps you feel close to your Nana.

For my Grans funeral it was the usual everyone wore black, I don't see the need really and I don't think it would have been what she wanted. So for the burial of the ashes, which was a more private family thing I wore a bright lemon/yellow jacket. I know she would have been smiling as she loved me in it. Wear what you know your Nana would love xxx

hatjam I am so sorry for your loss, thinking of you xx