Do I go to see my Mom? Viewing without being embalmed, worried about my reaction

[ToGoOrNotToGoWhatToDo]

Evening, please do not pounce on me for my grammar. I know it is awful, but I would just like some advice right now please.
I lost my Mom on the weekend, just 15 weeks from diagnosis or brain cancer. She has lived with my family and I since finding out, the decline was fast, cancer took her brain and little by little each day I lost her, until the end.
Her wishes are for a Direct Cremation and scattering, I don't agree with either but I will fulfill her wishes 100%.
I would much rather a funeral for closure and a grave to visit and mourn, but we spoke about what she wanted and I will honour her.
What I wish to ask is, she died on the weekend, she will not be embalmed just dressed I think.
What condition will she be in within a week? Has anyone else viewed someone in the chapel of rest a week after death not embalmed? Do you have regrets? What should I expect?
The funeral directors collected her 3 hours after death, as she started to lose her colour, I have children in the house and I was unsure of the changes to come.
I would be greatful of any advise please, as I am unsure on what to do.
I want to see my Mom, I want to make sure her belongings are 'just so', but I am afraid.

Hiya so I have been to see her, she did look like my Mom. She looked so peaceful and rested, finally had her mouth closed 😂 something she hadnt done in a while. I was with her until the end, but I am glad I went too. She looked far to neat in her coffin, ruffed her hair up abit and tucked her in, put her teddy where she liked it. Still do not feel as though she is gone, she looked like a wax work of my Mom. No idea when or if it will ever hit me, but I will take each day as it comes. Thank you everyone ❤️

My husband died on 22nd August last year at home, I visited him 11 days later and his sister visited him 11th September, they did not embalm as they said their fridges our so good now days. He looked better than I expected. They said they would give us plenty of warning if he needed embalming. Sorry for your loss.
edited as just seen your reply. Glad you saw her. Take care x

I am very sorry for your loss @ToGoOrNotToGoWhatToDo. My BiL died last summer with a very definite wish for a direct cremation. He was very insistent about it and didn’t really take into account his teenage sons’ need for closure and a gathering of family and friends in one place to support them (which is understandable as my BiL was struggling). He had the direct cremation and then we had a small simple ceremony in the village church with his ashes and gathering for all afterwards and actually it was far nicer for his sons and they were able to celebrate him without the practical stuff interfering.

As for seeing your mum, it’s so individual but I have never regretted seeing loved ones. She will be kept at a temperature that will help limit changes. You can ask the funeral director about what to expect. They absolutely want to support you and expect questions. Equally, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with deciding you don’t want to go - there is no wrong decision. 💐

Sorry @ToGoOrNotToGoWhatToDo I also didn’t see your update. I’m glad it seems to have been the right thing for you. Wishing you the very best.

When my mum died, my brother wanted to go and see her but by that point it had been 2 weeks. The funeral director was very kind but advised against it. After a week, I imagine you’d be fine but you can ask the FD for their honest opinion.

I’m sorry for your loss.