Anniversaries - which are harder?

[Drizzlybear]

Does anyone else find some anniversaries harder to deal with than others? I lost my Mum nearly a year ago and have calmly got through her birthday and Mother’s Day. Christmas was much harder, but the actual anniversary of her death is looming now and I’m dreading it. Can anyone else relate?

I’m sorry for your loss.
i remember the feeling well approaching the 1st anniversary of losing my dad. But once we got to it i realised all the “firsts” were done and i could start to heal a little bit more. We celebrate his birthday with a toast of red wine now which is nice. The anniversary of his passing and the two weeks leading up are still a bit raw (will be 7 years this year) but I’ve learnt to deal with it, book some time off work if I can, focus on something for me etc.
there’s no rule book unfortunately but please know you’re not alone in feeling how you do. Be gentle with yourself and feel all the feels you need to. Time does make it easier but there will always be moments that catch you out.

I personally don't tend to struggle with any anniversaries that much, if I'm honest. I found the first Christmas tricky, but other than that, I don't put emphasis on any other anniversary. It's simply just a date.
Big hugs to you, nonetheless 💐