Loss of dad

[iwishicouldtimetravel75]

I lost my dad a couple of hours ago. I feel guilty that I feel relief that he's no longer suffering. He was in and out of hospital frequently for the last 6 years- he was a frequent flyer! Is a relief a common stage or am I a horrible daughter?

You feel how you feel op. People react differently. I certainly felt relief when my mum died (severe dementia, which went on and on, before she eventually did die) because it was a release for her, now free of pain. Hugs to you op, I’m sorry for your loss.

Thank you. It's good to know that someone else has experienced this. Today I feel a mix of sadness and disbelief that he's actually gone. Trepidation of what I have to sort out, as I'm NOK and an only child he had no partner.

So sorry for your loss, and also that you are alone to sort everything out. That must be difficult.

I think a lot of people feel a relief that their loved one has been released from their suffering. There are many stages of grief, and we all experience them differently.
This is so very raw. Take your time and take up offers from people who want to help.

Relief is totally normal and it might stay as the overriding emotion. My Dad had terminal cancer and when he died quickly from COVID we were all relieved for him and also for us.

Thank you all. You've really helped to relieve my fears x

My father really suffered in the last 2 years .
He had 7 surgeries with terrible "recoveries" back to back .
He died while sleeping and I felt huge relief. I was so scared that he'll stay in this agony for months.... He was very tired, I'm pretty sure he would end his life by himself if someone would let him go home.