My Dad died in the 1990s, and my Mum 18 months ago. I’m finally getting around to sorting out a ledger stone for their grave but have no idea what to put on it. In loving memory, then their names and dates of birth and death? Anything else? The churchyard is very strict about what can go on it (the mason groaned when I told him what church it is), and I think it is easier to ask the church rather than work it out from their book of rules. I have already had a lengthy battle with the church on their names, as my Mum was known by her third name, and my Dad by a shortened version, and they have finally agreed that I can have just “Joan Smith” for my Mum, but won’t agree to my Dad’s shortened name, even in brackets after his first name. I’m at the point where I wish I had just scattered the ashes, as it’s causing so much hassle, not helped by the fact that I’m living abroad for work at the moment.