AIBU to be deeply offended?
I lost my partner last October. His best friend ( let's call him Fred) has taken it very hard. I invited him to speak at the funeral which he did beautifully. I've seen him and his wife 3 times since, the last being when I invited them to mine to stay over (so they could visit a sick parent locally) and have dinner with me.
Whilst they were here there was a card from another female friend on a table which had a long note inside about her husband's recent ( and very intimate) surgery. When we were eating dinner Fred asked about the surgery...which meant he'd read all the writing in the card, despite it being addressed to me and clearly not being a simple greeting only.
Fred has met this couple, but they are only acquainted through me and my late partner so his concern about the husband having surgery seemed insincere.
I was nonplussed, I think it is really rude to effectively read personal correspondence, but I didn't want to say that over a dinner I'd just bothered to cook for them.
Am I the idiot for leaving the card out, or should he have realised it was a personal dialogue not addressed to him and even if he had read it, been embarrassed enough to say no more?
This small event is making me feel much less generous towards him and his wife, I've noticed other minor lapses of 'manners' like not saying thank you...
Or should I invite them again and leave out another card with a long message that ends with 'mind your own business Fred and don't read other people's correspondence '?