Partner died yesterday. What do I need to do?

[Velvetgoldmine]

His was an expected death so no PM needed. My brain seems to have turned to jelly. Please tell me the things I need to do so I don't make any silly mistakes or miss anything. He was in his sixties with a pension and attendance allowance. We have a joint account and our own accounts and most of the bills are in his name. If I use Tell Us Once will all the accounts get closed down?

Notify all the companies you have insurtance with - even if it is in joint names. If you don't they can invalidate the insurance after 2 weeks!!

My sympathy to you - I found soup or a boiled egg a very easy way to eat.

On the eating issue, I found soup was a good option. It's nutritious but doesn't take any effort to eat. It's comforting in the same way as a hot drink when you just can't chew and swallow.

You don't have to do everything at once, get the important notifications done and then be gentle with yourself. It doesn't matter if you take your time to change things like the water bill.

Thank you all for the helpful messages. Am doing one thing a day - except for today when I just stayed in bed and sketched and watched TV. Honestly didn't have it in me to do more. Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day and I can take another couple of baby steps. The to-do list seems to be growing, not shrinking. Soup was a great suggestion!

Good to hear from you @Velvetgoldmine
Accept the quiet days and save energy for the active days.
Yes, the list feels huge, until it suddenly does not.

So sorry for your loss. Go easy on yourself. A duvet day with tv and sketching sounds very sensible.

my tip would be to start a notebook (or document on s computer) and record absolutely everything you do and have yet to do together. My memory is usually good but I found I kept forgetting trivial stuff Having it all written down and kept together was one way to feel that I had a handle on it. All the best.