Scattering Dad's ashes on Sunday. Wondering what to tell DD. She is a very sensitive child

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dd did not come to teh funeral in April but did come to the 'celebration' afterwards. She is coming to the scattering however. I am fretting about what to tell her as she would be devastated to know that Grandad has been reduced to a pot of ashes and that he has been 'burned'. Anyone got any ideas? I could tell her the truth but it will alarm her beyond belief.

How old is your dd and where is the scattering?

Sorry for your loss

Sorry about your Dad.
Don't have any ideas, btu I'm sure someone else will soon.

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Or if grandad was feeble or unwell, maybe you could say it's the illness/damaged parts of his body that he doesn't need now because he is gone to heaven where his body is strong and all healthy, and there is no pain.

thank you all for your sympathies and advice. Yes potoftea, my Dad was unwell and dd knew that. I asked her today if she knew what was going to happen on Sunday and she said that they burned Grandad's body and now we are scattering it. Amazing what they discuss in the playground. I'm thinking that it was better coming from a child to a child.. She seems Ok with it.

Hope it went ok for you and your dd

lilibet - thank you for thoughts . It was fine thankyou. dd cried her eyes out as i think it hit her properly for the first time that Grandad wasn't coming back. It did her a lot of good i think as she had not properly grieved since his passing - now she can finally put him to rest in her mind.