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ThisIsALow25 · 30/12/2025 18:01

A thread for anyone who is struggling or grieving right now.

This year was the fourth Christmas without my DP; we're now three years onto this journey without him.

I have a lovely life and lots to be postive about, Christmas was lovely and spent with our DC and my family and I got through unscathed and good in good spirits, but as usual once Boxing day is done and we begin to head into a new year, the grief and sadness makes a reappearance.

It seems to have followed the same pattern for the last two years so at least I know what to expect (hopefully) and that by mid-Jan it'll have subsided again, but bloody hell it's brutal isn't it? I just feel so sad - sadder then I've felt any other time during the year and more prolonged. It underpins everything and with it is a sense that everything is so fleeting. I think about the effects of time, about how next year we'll all be a year older - really depressive stuff. It generally takes two or three weeks for me to come out of it again and get back to normal, but it's just horrible, isn't?

Hugs for everyone who is in this position x

OP posts:
Dunnow1 · 30/12/2025 21:52

i think I could’ve written your post! Only my second Christmas without him, this post Christmas period is like being kicked in the guts everyday. I’ve cried more in the last few days than I have in the last few months. Like you I know I’ll get over this slump soon (until the next one) but it’s bloody hard.

I think this time of year just magnifies the loneliness. I’m already thinking how I can deal with this better next year.

ThisIsALow25 · 30/12/2025 22:00

Sorry you're feeling this too @Dunnow1 . I think maybe the run-up is so busy it's a distraction from how we're feeling underneath it all. The moment things slow down, it hits us?

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ByPoisedRaven · 30/12/2025 22:02

I'm sorry you're having to deal with this OP. It makes Christmas so hard. For the record, even though it is still missing something, it took me 8 years to be able to look forward to Christmas again.

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