Can anyone help me write this letter????????????????

[Cheekster]

About 9 months ago both me and a friend at work had a miscarriage quite close together. She was a huge support to me during that time.

We were both really lucky to get pregnant again quite soon after the mcs. My baby is due in 5 weeks time. Unfortunately my friends baby was diagnosed as having down syndrome and she decided to terminate the baby.

I havent spoke to her since this as while she was off work due to it all, my maternity leave started. But on my last day of work she sent in some beautiful presents for me and the baby, I just dont know where she got the strength from to do this for me after everything she has gone through.

Anyway, Im in the process of writing her a letter to say thankyou - but what on earth do I write? I just dont know where to start.

Is there anyone who can suggest what to write?

[Scootergrrrl]

You're touched she can think of you and the baby after all she has been through and you'd love to see her before or after the baby arrives, if she feels up to it. Maybe?

[Cheekster]

I like that, thanks Scootergrrl. Do you think I should keep it that brief?

[feedmenow]

Or maybe just a thank you note as if she was anyone else sending thoughtful gifts? She may not want to be treated any different, IYSWIM?

[guineamango]

Write what you feel, and maybe mention that you wish her the very best for her future and hope to on day be sending her gifts for a newborn arrival. It is lovely that she has thought of you after all her problems. Or perhaps phone her and go with the flow of the conversation??

[alittleteapot]

I think it's good to keep it quite brief, write what you feel but don't overload her or go over the top. I think Scootergrrrl's is a good suggestion - maybe adding that you've been thinking about her lots.

[lucyellensmum]

If it were me, i would send a normal thankyou note with an invite for coffee or something attached. She is making contact here and saying "yes, im sad for me, but im happy for you" It would be very easy to let this come between you as it is understandably sad and awkward. She might not feel ready to accept the invite and thats fine too, but at least she will know that you want her around.

[Cheekster]

Thanks a lot for all your help, I think Ive got the letter sorted. I have kept it quite brief but it contains all that is needed I think.

Thank you all.