Not wanting to move

[Laneylane1]

My mum has passed and I was hoping to eventually move into her property which would be our forever home. My 19 year old son was extremely close to his Nana but is struggling with her loss and doesn’t want to move there. He still lives with us. He has recently visited and is still very upset when he does. Will this get easier for him? I don’t want to move and he can’t visit if he decides to live elsewhere.

For him, it will be forever associated with her, so I doubt he will settle there. You could move there and take the gamble that he might change. But personally, I wouldn’t risk it. I’d sell it and buy something new altogether. A fresh start for you all.

My brother has lived in our parents house ever since they died, but he has lived there all his life. I haven’t been round there for over 5 years, the changes he’s done has made it his own, but I still don’t want to go round. Maybe in the New Year I should start. I could’ve lived in in-laws house after they passed, but DH said he couldn’t, we would have made it our own, made lots of interior changes, but it wasn’t to be. Would you DS be more open if you could show him what it would look like with you all living there.

Thank you I think we will sell

I’ve moved into my late father’s house. It took us a good 18 months to empty it and move across, so it was gradual. And we chose a different bedroom from his, even though his was bigger. Three years on and it totally looks and feels like our home, not his. He converted it and I love the touches that he put in. It still makes me think of him, in a nice way, but it’s definitely ours.