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Christmas Past

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HarmoniousHumbug · 20/12/2025 14:48

Today I am being stalked by the ghost of Christmas past.

I’m listening to carols as I prepare our family roast for tomorrow. Sobbing messily at the injustice of it all; the guilt, the futility, the ‘what if’ and the ‘if only’

Remembering the happy times when you were a little boy and Christmas was such a magical time. We were a normal family, not perfect, but now broken and forever changed.

I miss you so much.

I wish that you could have spoken to someone, to anyone about how you were feeling and what you were planning, but no-one knew anything was wrong.

The day you left was like a bomb detonating into our lives. Five years on and the wounds are like huge, poorly healing scars.

I love you so much and I hope you are at peace now. I think about you every day and wish that things could be different…

Hold your children tight this Christmas. Tell them how much you love them. Our precious, unreplaceable, beloved children.

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ErlingHaalandsManBun · 20/12/2025 15:03

Oh my god I am so very sorry for your unimaginable loss. 💔

This time of year must be especially brutal and traumatic and I am really sorry you are going through this. You are right, we become tortured by the 'what if's' and 'if only's' and I only hope you manage to find some peace during this time to remember your boy and feel close to him.

Sending hugs 🌹

Kattley · 20/12/2025 15:20

I’m very sorry for your loss.

Thirdtimeunlucky2025 · 20/12/2025 22:09

So sorry for your loss 💐💐💐

Mikart · 20/12/2025 22:12

Our 2nd Xmas without ds25 who took his life. It's much harder the 2nd one. And we still haven't had the inquest.

HarmoniousHumbug · 21/12/2025 11:27

I’m so sorry to read that Mikart.

We’re in a club that no-one wants to be a member of!

Sending strength and solidarity x

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LadyMacbethWasFierce · 22/12/2025 16:23

Such heartbreak on this thread. The bereaved parents’ club is one no one should have to be a part of. DD1 died on 29 October this year. Aged 24.

I am demented with grief and thought I genuinely would die somehow had I had to remain in the UK for Christmas (and I only cared about not dying as we have other children who still need me). So we have flown to Morocco for a week and are doing pretty well at avoiding Christmas altogether. I wish others affected as I am as much peace as you can muster.

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