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Shock of sibling

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Gizzywizzy · 10/12/2025 19:51

Last wk had a terrible shock ,unfortunately found out the passing of my elder brother,found out by Google,( wasn't even searching for him,was a ancestry thing was searching for,under my surname)
of all things to make matters worse he had passed 3 month ago ,but had only found out a wk last fri due to us not seeing each other for a while ,and for them not able to trace next of kin,it was just us two left due to both parents gone to,
Work i have been fuming how they handle it ,very well known place I work ,but refused to give any bereavement leave ,even though I was inconsolable and broke 💔 down in a complete mess,had a wk off by seeing Gp ,return to work but still unsure if should go back to Gp request more time of ,as Christmas is never good for me due to losing parents, now my only brother,still feeling quite fragile ,and not sure how to feel lot of the time ,i know I shouldn't, but I wish I did more to help him now ,
And feeling let down by my employer for there so called empathy in the matter

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Ydkiml · 10/12/2025 21:55

Sorry to hear of your heartache . So sad but you weren’t to know . It could have been you who died and he wouldn’t have known either . Had you both fell out or just drifted apart . ? How old was he ?

Gizzywizzy · 10/12/2025 22:20

Ydkiml · 10/12/2025 21:55

Sorry to hear of your heartache . So sad but you weren’t to know . It could have been you who died and he wouldn’t have known either . Had you both fell out or just drifted apart . ? How old was he ?

He were 56 ,we had drifted apart although he did have some issues wen we parted ,just feel so alone now all of them gone,and I never honestly knew it would feel this hard

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Turnerskies · 12/12/2025 13:22

I'm very sorry for your loss. You must be in shock finding out like that.
I would get your GP to sign you off until the New year if your employer is unhelpful.

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