FIL is dying

[Chainy]

He’s a lovely man and it is a sudden decline. He likely has a few months left.

DH is devastated, and is holding it together for work and the kids but there have been a lot of tears and telling me his thoughts and worries. I’m very upset but obviously nothing compared to DH.

MIL will struggle physically (she is disabled) and emotionally without him. We have 4 kids ranging from 4-14 who adore him so will have to think of age appropriate ways to talk to them about it to prepare them and also when he passes.

I feel like I should be thinking ahead about practical things and would really value some advice from anyone who has been through this.

Im so sorry, recently had a similar situation minus the children but absolutely devastating as unexpected and much younger. Do you know if paperwork is in place? Ie a will, POA (health and financial) Im not sure if mental health is a factor in which case that can impact things.

Sorry I sound quite direct about practicalities but this was one of the biggest hurdles and hard to even begin to grieve properly whilst filling and chasing forms. If mentally capable is it possible to discuss things like last wishes, and any funeral wishes too. Sending hugs

Record him, if possible. This is your husband’s last chance to hear about family history.

Make sure you’re holding the fort so your husband is able to spend last moments with him as much as possible.